How Racial Trauma Affects Marriages
By the time Theo and Grace reached the end of their third year of marriage, it was clear they were in trouble. There was something deeper going on beneath their…
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How Do You Resolve Conflict?
Like most young couples on their wedding day, we were starry-eyed lovers who had not a care in the world. Elated to begin our life together, we had no doubt…
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9 Marriage Troublemakers you Need to Avoid
I feel bad for marital communication, because it gets blamed for everything. For generations, in survey after survey, couples have rated marital communication as the number-one problem in marriage. It’s…
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The Silent Treatment
“Silence is golden” may be a nice sentiment, and sometimes remaining quiet during a conflict is helpful. For example, if you or your spouse are too upset to address your…
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Love Enough to Confront
It’s not unusual to hear people say, “I hate confrontation.” Many will do everything they can to avoid it at all costs. That’s especially true for couples. What’s behind this…
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4 Communication Traps
Recently, a new friend asked me whether Ron and I still find things to fight about. Uh, yes. We’re two strongly opinionated individuals who have been married 41 years and…
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Married to an Emasculating Woman?
My husband, LeRoy, and I are different. What an understatement! My family of origin welcomed debate and practiced it loudly and frequently. LeRoy’s father ruled with an iron fist and…
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8 Ways to a More Peaceful Home
When Julie and Greg were married, neither of them anticipated the baggage Julie brought into their relationship from her first marriage. “Though we loved each other passionately, Greg and I…
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Overcoming My Big Mouth!
Territory For the first time in six weeks, I was grateful to have a broken ankle. It gave my husband and me the perfect excuse to bow out of the Learn-to-trust-your–spouse-by–bungee-jumping exercise offered…
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You Didn’t Marry Your Mom
One of the most inflammatory things a husband can say to his wife is, “That’s not how Mom did it.” Let’s look at three areas in a marriage where it’s…
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