While on a recent flight to Chicago, the pilot of my (Ron’s) airplane came on the loudspeaker to caution the passengers: “As you can tell, we’re experiencing some turbulence,” he said. “We’ve turned on the Fasten Seat Belt sign for your protection, and we want you to know that if you get out of your seat and break your arm, it’s on your nickel.” While the passengers didn’t appreciate his tone, we did value the caution. Anyone trying to build a marriage in a stepfamily should heed these words of caution: “Buckle your seat belts and remain seated. The ride ahead may be bumpy for a while, but it will smooth out as you go. Press on, and don’t jump out of the plane!”
Where are you NOW? (Identify and Discuss Your Results)
Where would you like to be? (Discuss Issues)
How do you get there? (Develop Your Action Plan)
Want to learn more about stepfamily living? We highly recommend you read Ron’s book The Smart Stepfamily: Seven Steps to a Healthy Family and check out the DVD series, available at SmartStep-families.com.
Remember, the goal is to turn your stumbling blocks (issues) into stepping-stones (strengths).
Excerpted from The Remarriage Checkup: Tools to Help Your Marriage Last a Lifetime by Ron L. Deal and David H. Olson. Copyright © 2010 Published by Bethany House, a division of Baker Publishing Group. Used by permission. Unauthorized duplication prohibited.