When I went through my divorce, Valentine’s Day was one of the most dreaded times of the year. I hated it. The endless scenarios of people in love, frolicking on sun baked beaches, or in some other romantic setting, confirmed to me that I was an ugly failure. It wasn’t the truth but at the time I felt like a rejected loser who couldn’t keep a husband.
The engagement ring commercials were the worst. Lovers destined to a life of bliss, pledging eternal love. And the two carat emerald-cut diamond would somehow make it all delightfully perfect. My cynical tongue would hiss, “Yeah, someone made that vow to me once too. Don’t believe it!”
After several years of divorce recovery ministry and time spent with the Lord instead of listening to the media, I have discovered better ways for single people to cope with the apprehension of the looming February date.
I’m not talking about an unrealistic “just don’t think about it” mentality pretending the day doesn’t evoke nostalgia or a longing to have someone special. We were created for companionship, this does not astonish or offend God.
Instead of focusing on what is missing, I suggest allowing the yearnings of the day to draw us toward God, and ask Him to divulge the desires of your heart. Be aware! When we truly look to Him, He may use this season to reveal where our hearts need further healing. The Creator of our hearts is the only one who understands where we may have been severely damaged by previous relationships, a painful childhood, low self worth, or numerous other issues. Because of His great love and compassion for us, Jesus grasps the depth of the injury. If we surrender to his tender touch, He will patiently heal each wound. And the result will be a healthy, healed heart that is ready for romance.
So how do we keep Valentine’s Day from becoming an emotional meltdown during this healing process? I’ve listed some practical ways to cope and even thrive on February 14th. (They work for Mother’s or Father’s Day too.)
I pray these suggestions help make your Valentine’s Day brighter. After all, any day with chocolate as its focus is something to smile about.
Copyright © 2007 Laura Petherbridge, Used with permission.
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