I ran into a friend who filled me in on some distance/frustration/angst within his marriage. After his transparent sharing, he went practical asking, “Do you have ideas on what I should do?”
Mending wounded relationships is NOT simple and band aids are rarely effective, but there are some simple, practical, and transforming actions that can be taken to change a tone/vibe/environment within your home and marriage.
Try these 5 actions for a week and see if the temperature in your home doesn’t change a little. Plus, even if your relational temperature is “fine,” these ideas may make it even better.
One night while we were having dinner, I politely asked Cathy, “Do you mind if I heat this up in the microwave for a minute?” Little did I know that a simple question could lead to tears, screaming, silverware flying, words that I had never heard Cathy say before (to this day I still believe she may have been speaking in tongues), and a quick exit from the table. I thought, “What was that all about?After pulling the fork from my neck, it became clear to me that it wasn’t about my question; it was about my nightly decisions to make everything and everyone in my youth ministry more important than my bride. It was about the disrespect I showed Cathy by not following through on my commitment to be home at a specific time.
If you make a commitment to your spouse, honor it. It’s amazing what simple actions will communicate about love and respect.
5. Leave a short note. The emphasis on this is “short” I’m not suggesting two pages, typed out, double-spaced. What if you left your spouse a short note every day for a week? Short words of affection and encouragement can be powerful. And, if it’s not a regular practice, these notes will become treasures.
Yes, some relationships need BIG changes (intervention, counseling, accountability, etc…), but some relationships can be dramatically altered by some very SMALL and doable actions.
Don’t wait for the spouse to start…you start!
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