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10 Steps to Overcoming Pornography Addiction

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1. First, you must acknowledge the addiction exists. Many who are caught in the trap of addiction will adamantly deny the problem. He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion. - Proverbs 28:13

2. You must recognize that what you are doing is wrong. Addicts find a way to justify their problem in their mind. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. - I John 2:16

3. You must not blame others – “If my wife/husband were just more affectionate.” … “If women/men were not so seductive.” Adam blamed Eve and she blamed the serpent. Instead, you must begin to take responsibility for your actions.

4. Make yourself accountable to a spiritual authority, perhaps a pastor or mature believer. Everybody needs a “safe” person to share their struggles with. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much. - James 5:16

5. You must recognize that “will power” is not the answer. At a weak moment, your “will” may fail you. By admitting that you are in need of God’s help, you open access to His supernatural intervention in your life. You must yield your will to God’s will. That’s when He can begin a new work in your life.

6. Study the Word of God concerning sexual purity. Therefore putting aside all filthiness and all that remains of wickedness, in humility receive the Word implanted, which is able to save your souls. – James 1:21

7. You must destroy any pornography in your possession. You can’t wean yourself off pornography. Think of the hidden pornography in your home as a ticking time bomb that will ultimately destroy your family.

8. You must learn to flee temptation. Self-deception may enter when you think you can play with fire without getting burned. Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not proceed in the way of evil men. Avoid it, do not pass by it. Turn away from it and pass on. – Proverbs 4:14,15

9. Give yourself time to work through the process of recovery. More often than not, God chooses to take us through a learning and growing process, that can be very painful. Victory over addiction should be viewed as a marathon, not a sprint.

10. It’s cliche, but you must approach your addiction one day at a time. Look for little victories and rejoice in the progress you’re making. Recovery is a cinch by the inch, but a trial by the mile.

Used by permission of New Life Ministries. New Life Ministries has a variety of resources on men, women and relationships. Call 1-800-NEW-LIFE or visit

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  • Landon

    This goes to everyone on this page. I’m a Freshman in high school and have been battling pornography addiction for 4 years now. I was first introduced at a young age and ever since, that has been what is destroying my relationship with My God. I have allowed this addiction to take control, and screw up my Christian life. I offered my life to Christ 3 years ago but I never really completely stopped. I’ve had times where I would stay clean for months but just one simple thing, and I’m back in a life that is ultimately leading to my destruction. I have found that in the times reading my Bible, devotion my life to Christ, and focusing on serving him, I can win the addiction battle by battle. This is my advice to you. When you feel tempted, don’t just say ok I got this with God’s help and watch TV or get on the computer or listen to music. I urge you brother’s and sister’s to, in that time, Read your Bible for God’s comfort. This is my challenge to you that when you are tempted, look to God but not only in prayer, but also in Bible reading. God has moved mountains in my life and I don’t deserve his Mercy. I am nothing compared to the one who made me. I hope that for all you reading this, you find advice and encouragement to keep striving to win the addiction over, battle by battle, bit by bit, day by day. Remember: Having an Accountability Partner, or someone who you trust to help you stay on track, is a great idea. Thank you for reading this and if you will, Pray for me. My Name is Landon.

  • smeme

    I am a mother and have been addicted to porn for 12 years. I have continually asked Christ into my life to help me with my addiction but I always backslide.My husband has cheated on me with more than a dozen women and that makes it even more difficult to stop coz I feel justified in what im doing coz he rarely wants sex and I have a high libido. Im struggling with all of this and need prayer foe my husband to love me and appreciate me for the beauty ihave within.thanx

    • Godfrey Fernandez

      Do you love what your doing? If you dont love it, God sure will help you out, read Psalm 66:18

    • Liz

      Smeme, you are not the only mom dealing with this. Im in your shoes. I love God so much I feel so sick afterwards…I hate myself every time. With a husband who doesn’t have sex with me very often I too justify my actions. But in the end we are to not be moved by them. My soul is crying out to God. me!!!

  • Godfrey Fernandez

    Everyone struggles with sin, the first thing to remember is dont hurt yourself with your mind, secondly ONLY GODS WORD CAN DELIVER, please read, Psalm 66:18. David said if he LOVED sin God would never had heard his prayers, but HE HATED SIN, so ask yourself just ONE THING. DO YOU LOVE AND ENJOY WHAT YOUR DOING? If you love it prayers and counseling is a waste, If you hate it, thats a good sign. Would love to help you more with this, feel free to email me at

  • Godfrey Fernandez

    Please read Psalm 66:18

  • Godfrey Fernandez

    The only powerful tool is GODS WORD, nothing else will and can help, read Psalm 66:18 my friend, and ask yourself if your loving what you do? You must begin to hate it first, cause if you love something what good is anyone advice or counsel?

    • David

      good evening my name is David.I’ve been a christian for around 6 years now. I’m 32 years old and have been battling with porn ever since I was the age of 6. The christian life has been a rollercoaster for me. There’s times when I enjoy it, and other times I don’t. I need help. I don’t want to do this anymore. its hindering my life along with anger. please help.

  • Godfrey Fernandez

    Your right my friend, we are all HUMAN BEINGS, thats the truth, but hey Gods Word never takes advantage of you, ITS ACTUAL GIVES YOU ADVANTAGE, so read Psalm 66:18, and make sure YOU HATE WHAT YOUR DOING FIRST, cause if your still LOVING IT, then all prayers are a waste.

  • Godfrey Fernandez

    Read Gods Word, everything else is a waste of time, if you RESPECT God and His word, then it will SURELY HELP, Read Psalm 66:18 my friend and stop loving what your doing.

  • KT

    Hello there….. I’m KT, and I’m addicted to porn and masturbation. Could you please guys help me with prayers to get rid of this demon.

    • growthtrac

      KT, I’ve just prayed for you.Thank you for posting. We’ll pray …

  • Josh

    My name is Josh, struggling with porn addiction since 15 years.
    Need help with my addiction. Please pray for me, I want to put this battle to rest once and for all, I want my life back. I want to have a connection with God again. Any prayer would be appreciated! An accountability friend will be awesome! Thank you.

    • growthtrac

      Hi Josh. Wanted you to know the ‘growthtrac team’ will be praying for you. Hang in there buddy. Jim


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