10 Steps to Overcoming Pornography Addiction

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1. First, you must acknowledge the addiction exists. Many who are caught in the trap of addiction will adamantly deny the problem. He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion. - Proverbs 28:13

2. You must recognize that what you are doing is wrong. Addicts find a way to justify their problem in their mind. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. - I John 2:16

3. You must not blame others – “If my wife/husband were just more affectionate.” … “If women/men were not so seductive.” Adam blamed Eve and she blamed the serpent. Instead, you must begin to take responsibility for your actions.

4. Make yourself accountable to a spiritual authority, perhaps a pastor or mature believer. Everybody needs a “safe” person to share their struggles with. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much. - James 5:16

5. You must recognize that “will power” is not the answer. At a weak moment, your “will” may fail you. By admitting that you are in need of God’s help, you open access to His supernatural intervention in your life. You must yield your will to God’s will. That’s when He can begin a new work in your life.

6. Study the Word of God concerning sexual purity. Therefore putting aside all filthiness and all that remains of wickedness, in humility receive the Word implanted, which is able to save your souls. – James 1:21

7. You must destroy any pornography in your possession. You can’t wean yourself off pornography. Think of the hidden pornography in your home as a ticking time bomb that will ultimately destroy your family.

8. You must learn to flee temptation. Self-deception may enter when you think you can play with fire without getting burned. Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not proceed in the way of evil men. Avoid it, do not pass by it. Turn away from it and pass on. – Proverbs 4:14,15

9. Give yourself time to work through the process of recovery. More often than not, God chooses to take us through a learning and growing process, that can be very painful. Victory over addiction should be viewed as a marathon, not a sprint.

10. It’s cliche, but you must approach your addiction one day at a time. Look for little victories and rejoice in the progress you’re making. Recovery is a cinch by the inch, but a trial by the mile.

Used by permission of New Life Ministries. New Life Ministries has a variety of resources on men, women and relationships. Call 1-800-NEW-LIFE or visit www.newlife.com.

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  • Landon

    This goes to everyone on this page. I’m a Freshman in high school and have been battling pornography addiction for 4 years now. I was first introduced at a young age and ever since, that has been what is destroying my relationship with My God. I have allowed this addiction to take control, and screw up my Christian life. I offered my life to Christ 3 years ago but I never really completely stopped. I’ve had times where I would stay clean for months but just one simple thing, and I’m back in a life that is ultimately leading to my destruction. I have found that in the times reading my Bible, devotion my life to Christ, and focusing on serving him, I can win the addiction battle by battle. This is my advice to you. When you feel tempted, don’t just say ok I got this with God’s help and watch TV or get on the computer or listen to music. I urge you brother’s and sister’s to, in that time, Read your Bible for God’s comfort. This is my challenge to you that when you are tempted, look to God but not only in prayer, but also in Bible reading. God has moved mountains in my life and I don’t deserve his Mercy. I am nothing compared to the one who made me. I hope that for all you reading this, you find advice and encouragement to keep striving to win the addiction over, battle by battle, bit by bit, day by day. Remember: Having an Accountability Partner, or someone who you trust to help you stay on track, is a great idea. Thank you for reading this and if you will, Pray for me. My Name is Landon.

  • smeme

    I am a mother and have been addicted to porn for 12 years. I have continually asked Christ into my life to help me with my addiction but I always backslide.My husband has cheated on me with more than a dozen women and that makes it even more difficult to stop coz I feel justified in what im doing coz he rarely wants sex and I have a high libido. Im struggling with all of this and need prayer foe my husband to love me and appreciate me for the beauty ihave within.thanx

    • Godfrey Fernandez

      Do you love what your doing? If you dont love it, God sure will help you out, read Psalm 66:18

    • Liz

      Smeme, you are not the only mom dealing with this. Im in your shoes. I love God so much I feel so sick afterwards…I hate myself every time. With a husband who doesn’t have sex with me very often I too justify my actions. But in the end we are to not be moved by them. My soul is crying out to God. ..help me!!!

  • Godfrey Fernandez

    Everyone struggles with sin, the first thing to remember is dont hurt yourself with your mind, secondly ONLY GODS WORD CAN DELIVER, please read, Psalm 66:18. David said if he LOVED sin God would never had heard his prayers, but HE HATED SIN, so ask yourself just ONE THING. DO YOU LOVE AND ENJOY WHAT YOUR DOING? If you love it prayers and counseling is a waste, If you hate it, thats a good sign. Would love to help you more with this, feel free to email me at godfreyvine@gmail.com

  • Godfrey Fernandez

    Please read Psalm 66:18

  • Godfrey Fernandez

    The only powerful tool is GODS WORD, nothing else will and can help, read Psalm 66:18 my friend, and ask yourself if your loving what you do? You must begin to hate it first, cause if you love something what good is anyone advice or counsel?

    • David

      good evening my name is David.I’ve been a christian for around 6 years now. I’m 32 years old and have been battling with porn ever since I was the age of 6. The christian life has been a rollercoaster for me. There’s times when I enjoy it, and other times I don’t. I need help. I don’t want to do this anymore. its hindering my life along with anger. please help.

  • Godfrey Fernandez

    Your right my friend, we are all HUMAN BEINGS, thats the truth, but hey Gods Word never takes advantage of you, ITS ACTUAL GIVES YOU ADVANTAGE, so read Psalm 66:18, and make sure YOU HATE WHAT YOUR DOING FIRST, cause if your still LOVING IT, then all prayers are a waste.

  • Godfrey Fernandez

    Read Gods Word, everything else is a waste of time, if you RESPECT God and His word, then it will SURELY HELP, Read Psalm 66:18 my friend and stop loving what your doing.

  • KT

    Hello there….. I’m KT, and I’m addicted to porn and masturbation. Could you please guys help me with prayers to get rid of this demon.

    • growthtrac

      KT, I’ve just prayed for you.Thank you for posting. We’ll pray …

  • Josh

    My name is Josh, struggling with porn addiction since 15 years.
    Need help with my addiction. Please pray for me, I want to put this battle to rest once and for all, I want my life back. I want to have a connection with God again. Any prayer would be appreciated! An accountability friend will be awesome! Thank you.

    • growthtrac

      Hi Josh. Wanted you to know the ‘growthtrac team’ will be praying for you. Hang in there buddy. Jim

      • Josh

        Hey Jim,
        Thank you for your prayers.
        Today is my 5th day sober (no porn or no mastribuation) hope it continues… Josh

        Subject: Re: New comment posted on 10 Steps to Overcoming Pornography Addiction

        • growthtrac

          Josh, way to go.

          • growthtrac

            Hey Josh, how’s it going?

    • Nathan

      Hi Josh,
      Please make a decision to spent more time with the Lord in prayer or bible reading or simply enjoying His presence. Many times we are not equipped to handle the addiction. However, I believe (it worked for me) that if we could make “every” effort to spent time with God, He will provide the grace to overcome it.
      Thank you.

  • Mrs. Fontenot

    Hi, my name is Mrs. Fontenot, and I’ve been dealing with the struggles of pornography. My husband and I have been married going on four years; I kept myself pure for him and am glad to say he’s the ONLY man I’ve ever been intimate with. However, within the past year, his sexual appetite has declined noticeably and part of it isn’t his fault. I can’t help feeling like I’m being cheated though. I mean I “keep” myself and finally get to give all this passion I have without having to feel ashamed and it’s like nothing’s there. Through my efforts to search for ways to spice up our intimacy, I opened myself up to pornography unintentionally. When watching it, I just find myself longing for the intense passion that is portrayed, even though I know its just lust and not love. I love my husband and I love God. I don’t wanna continue to hurt God and I can’t bring myself to discuss this with my husband. I’m longing for more intimacy and romance with my husband but he seems to be unfazed. He’s dealing with some physical issues that weren’t a problem in the beginning of our marriage, and I think now he’s just settling with it and it’s having an affect (effect?) on our intimate life. ~Sigh~ Please, seriously pray for my deliverance and for restoration in this area of our marriage. Thanks.

  • Roy

    Hi, I have been battling this addiction for the last one year and the battle stil continue now. The longest that I have been to walk in purity is for almost 4 months. I must say that this addiction is really destroying from inside to whoever who is trapped with this. I just want to share what I did. It actually worked. I realize that I am a porn addicted person. Since the first time I let myself to fall into this trap about 13 years ago, I realized it has changed me. I must say that since I fell to this trap and been doing this demonic cycle for almost ten years ,It has changed me. What was seemed to not my daily activities has been my daily activites. Porn became my daily activites, It wasnt my daily things that I usually do. And I battled with it for years with my own power and it didnt work.

    I have been joining a ministry in my campus for almost 3 years and thank God that since I join this ministry God has revealed to me several things that I need to change. Here are some tips. You must first remember that you will never become a normal person like you were before you entered this sinfull act. You will always be a porn addicted person. You have to accept that. You will be free but not by being a person that is not addicted anymore. You will keep get addicted. Yes, that you will eventually be free. Dont try to be someone that you are not. You goal is not to be a person who is not addicted anymore. Your goal is to die for your lustfull desire and thoughts day by day. That is your goal. You must set a pattern to be healed. The purpose is not to change you as a person who is not addicted anymore. The purpose of this pattern is to die for your lustfull thought and desire day by day. Dont spend your battle to be someone that is not addicted. live your battle to show to the devil that though you are addicted, you will win this battle.

    Secondly, you must understand in which situation you fall each time. Evaluate yourself. Is it because the internet? Is it because watching movie? Is it because that you feel lonely? Is it because you feel angry? Is it because you are not busy with your job or other activities? Is it because your character? Evaluate yourself. Know your weakness and make a radical decision to overcome your weakness.

    The last that is more important is that build your relationship with God. Read bible daily. Fast is you never done fasting. Let this struggle be your daily prayer. Pray more, pray harder. Ask God to renewal your heart.

    Remember my friends that you are not strong. Dont live any second in your life as you are not addicted anymore. You are and will always be addicted to this. Your goal is to live in God’s way day by day. Ask God to clean your heart. Be humble and be a winner!

    Hope this helped you. As for me, my biggest battle is that after a month or two of walking in purity, my heart in some situation miss those demonic fantasy and in some condition I just gave up to those desire. This a stage of battle that Im trying to win. Please pray for me.

    So friends, let’s battle this addiciton together. Let God’s power help us to live day by day in sincerity.
    Lets fight this together with God!

    PS: sorry for my incorrect spelling, I dont know english very well.

    • growthtrac

      Roy, prayed for you…

    • Monty Stone Jr

      I have also struggled with this addiction on and off since I was 18 (I am 54 now). When I was first married, I did not use it as I was happy with my sex life with my wife. We split up 1 year ago (stopped having sex 3 years ago) and it resurfaced. I don’t know what to do as she won’t have anything to do with me anymore. We are still married, just separated. I just feel if we could reconcile and get back to intimacy, everything would go back to normal. I am just not sure anymore. Please pray for me.

  • Guage

    We all have to Pray for each other that Men won’t look at porn , that Marriage will be safe from Cheating by either side , that you won’t even read about swapping or any of that other stuff . GOD wants a Man to Marry a Woman and a Woman to Marry a Man for each to be FAITHFUL TO EACH OTHER . Please Pray for that Everyday . You don’t have to be ruled by porn ask GOD to FILL YOU WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT and to protect you, go out and day by day live as he would want you to live . You’ll be fine in JESUS Name .

  • Percy

    Hello there guys I’m a 12 year girl and my heart is hurting I’m sad depressed and angry because I can’t get over my pornography addiction, it all started when I was seven years old and it been destroying my life ever since. I was home alone and bored and was surfing threw YouTube and found a video of lesbian pornography and it all went done hill from there. I haven’t been caught I don’t ever want to be caught I just want it to stop! I’m in the youth groups leadership team and I work with the children on Sunday mornings. I feel sad and alone I have been trying very hard and fighting against it! Please keep me in your prayers I will pray for everyone on this website seeking salvation and help.

  • Stacey ochao

    I was married to my husband for 5 years we were living happily together for this years and not until he traveled to Italy for a business trip where he met this girl and since then he hate me and the kids and love her only. So when my husband came back from the trip he said he does not want to see me and my kids again so he drove us out of the house and he was now going to Italy to see that other woman. so I and my kids were now so frustrated and I was just staying with my mum and I was not be treating good because my mother got married to another man after my father death so the man she got married to was not treating her well, I and my kids were so confuse and I was searching for a way to get my husband back home because I love and cherish him so much so one day as I was browsing on my computer I saw a testimony about this spell caster DR AISABU testimonies shared on the internet by a lady and it impress me so much I also think of give it a try. At first I was scared but when I think of what me and my kids are passing through so I contact him and he told me to stay calm for just 24 hours that my husband shall come back to me and to my best surprise I received a call from my husband on the second day asking after the kids and I called DR. AISABU and he said your problems are solved my child. so this was how I get my family back after a long stress of brake up by an evil lady so with all this help from DR AISABU, I want you all on this forum to join me to say a huge thanks to DR AISABU, and I will also advice for any one in such or similar problems or any kind of problems should also contact him his email is (aisabulovespell@gmail.com) he is the solution to all your problems and predicaments in life. Once again his email address is (aisabulovespell@gmail.com)

  • Guest

    The final Gospel (Al-Quran) Chapter 17: Verse 32. Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful [deed] and an evil, opening the road [to other evils].

  • Anita

    I am 18 and have been battling with porn addiction ànd masturbation since I was 10. It all began with the sexual encounters with the nannies at home who used to violate me and the gardner too. I didn’t know what I was ďoing but I enjoyed it. Now I watch porn and masturbate and even when I try to stop knowing it’s a sin, I keep falling back and enjoying it all over again. Nobody knows about this problem and I’ve decided to share this because i’m trying to take a bold step to conquer this problem. Please help me! And pray for me.

    • David

      Anita the key to fighting this temptation is admitting the problem. Good for you! the second is admitting and confessing this sin. Ephesians 5 tells us to expose the darkness to the light and we will have fellowship with God. It also says, ” Arise O sleeper and awake from the dead and Christ will shine on you. The fact that you enjoy it is not a surprise. If sin wasnt so enjoyable none of us would do it. However know that God created sex to be enjoyed in marriage and for us to embrace those feelings you feel. However it is when we act on these feelings out of marriage which makes us feel guilty and awful inside. I would recommend seeking an older married woman that you trust and confess this to her. Jesus tells us that if we confess our sins he faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all iniquity. Keep fighting Anita! You have the spirit of Christ in you

      • Herb

        Anita I feel for you. You say that you were sexually assaulted many times. This is horrible pain perpetrated on you and you may well be medicating that pain. this is something you need to deal with with the help of a christian counselor who is trained in dealing with victims of sexual assault. Further I would encourage you to follow Davids advice and seek out a spiritually mature woman whom you can confess to and to whom you are willing to commit to ongoing honest accountability. If there is a support group in your area such as Pure Desire or Freedom Group, I would also strongly encourage you to join there.

  • Taylor Nancy

    my mouth is full of testimony is just like a dream but is real all thanks to papa Dr saulat.
    I will continue to share this testimony sir till the whole world had of it. i am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex husband back.I was going crazy when my husband left me and my two kids for another woman last month, But i complained to my colleague in my place of work and she discuss with me her experience too and how she over come with the help of papa Dr saulat the great messenger God is using to help people, I narrated my problem to Dr saulat about how my Husband left me and my two kids and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,24 hours later,My Ex Husband called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me and the kids before now and one week after my Husband called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in a very big company here in Washington DC were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact saulatspellhome@yahoo.com on his personal email address or website http://drsaulatindiaspell.webs.com/ and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve
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  • Taylor Nancy

    my mouth is full of testimony is just like a dream but is real all thanks to papa Dr saulat.
    I will continue to share this testimony sir till the whole world had of it. i am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex husband back.I was going crazy when my husband left me and my two kids for another woman last month, But i complained to my colleague in my place of work and she discuss with me her experience too and how she over come with the help of papa Dr saulat the great messenger God is using to help people, I narrated my problem to Dr saulat about how my Husband left me and my two kids and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,24 hours later,My Ex Husband called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me and the kids before now and one week after my Husband called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in a very big company here in Washington DC were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact saulatspellhome@yahoo.com on his personal email address or website http://drsaulatindiaspell.webs.com/ and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve

  • ronald

    G,day every one . Porno is every where . On tv, ON the walls On the street corners ,In the movies .and of cause it,s on the internet .Well it is only a click away to all this pleasure . How many times has God heard from us time and time again Lord forgive me i will never do it again . What is going on here ,We are trying Well lust brought down king David , .King Solaman with his 850 wives was never happy.,God told him it was not a good idea to have so many wives but his addiction to women brought him down .Solamon who built Gods temple was lead astray to worship other strange gods who were no gods at all . They were made of sticks and stones and needed a frame to hold them up .How could he do such a thing ? king David on the other hand pleaded with God not to take the Holy Spirit away from him. . To David that was the most valuable treasure in his life .He fasted and prayed for a clean heart before God .
    Our bodys need many things but it needs food and water the most or we will die Christ fasted for forty days and nights to overcome temptations of the flesh . He must have been nearly dead but why is this in the bible for us to read. Christ also said lust of the flesh only comes out by pray and fasting .This is the only way to bring your boby into line . If we pray and go without food for one week but only drink water then we will see a big change in our way of thinking . Can you do this as a follower of Jesus.. Some things only leave us alone by prayer and fasting . Habits just die hard . Lust and perversion just start packing up and going from you.as u pray and fast . Maybe some time i can tell you about how i was like a bird in a trap and no way could i set myself free It is only by prayer and fasting that i am here on this site today . Gods mercy and forgivness just flows like a river from the highest mountain and flows down into the lowest vallies.. Just reach out and tough him because u can .
    Porno is like a cute little monkey We see him and pick him up and put him onto our shoulder.Then we give him a banana to eat Nice little monkey how could he hurt me ,he is so cute . Then he starts to grow bigger and needs more banana. and then he grows into a gorilla and then starts to demand banana , He has a vice like grip on you now and he don,t wan,t to get off you. . After that he get so big and heavy that he crushes you. Stop feeding the monkey . With Gods help, get him off now , Maybe i talk to much but i have been married for 38 years and a lot of good christains have been slain by him . Pasters elders youth workers ,and lust will get u too.if you let him . I know its hard to talk about these things and i think if you are a member of a church team u need to step down and tell an elder .now . . cya captain ron Jesus savior pilot me over the sea i am just a fisherman

  • Tristan

    Hey men, I am a 27 year old married man who has been struggling with pornography for as long as I can remember. It has affected my marriage and the way I view my wife and our sex life to the point of my wife having anxiety over the thought of having sexual relations with me. I find myself having urges throughout the day and turning to God to try and keep the urges at bay. I would appreciate prayer for spiritual healing and a renewed mind.

    Thanks

    • growthtrac

      Tristan, I just prayed for you.

  • Stephen

    Pray for me I’m a 25 year old single male never been married still a virgin when I came to know Christ I was a porn addict and I quit watching for like six months and now have started back I’ve have tried everything destroyin electronics that have it on it and it keeps coming back in my life really need prayers

  • Lost

    At the age of 5 I was introduced to porn and masturbation by an older cousin. For the next say 13 years of my life I was bound by porn and masturbation. It literally was something I did every 2-3 days. I grew up in a Christian home and knew this was wrong, however over those years I lost control. I wanted to stop but couldn’t. I ended up going to bible college at 19 years old. There God delivered me completely. I walked in freedom for years and even helped others overcome what I had. However, when I was about 26 I met a woman and we began to date. I later would marry her and she became saved. That’s well and good, but during the time we were dating we began to have sex outside of marriage and experiment with each other with different things. One thing was we would watch porn while we would have sex. I never realized or maybe just wanted to ignore it, but that really opened the flood gates like I could never imagine. We are now married and I can truly say I love my wife. Yet, there is this dark side of me that wants the porn and masturbation. My wife is beautiful and in my head I know I am like why do I need anything or anyone else. I have gotten to the point where I don’t feel God’s conviction anymore. I feel bad but it’s not the same. I am so scared that God will give up on me. I can’t blame Him, but I am so tired of this. More than 75% of my life I have been bound. I want out, but seems like my prayer life is dead and God’s presence is beyond me at this point. Please pray for me.

    Secret Addict

    • growthtrac

      “Secret” … I’ve prayed for you.

    • john

      I used to think I was the only one who was walking around with this evil addiction, but it seems like im not. I have now been struggling with it for 25 years. I want to rid myself of this once and for all and live for and serve the lord, but my flesh is weak and I fall and fail on what seems like a daily basis. I hate who I am and what ive become, and my biggest fear is that the lord no longer wants anything to do with me because of my so many broken promises. Its hard to get up and face the day sometimes, and I try to tell myself that I am not evil, just my actions. I haven’t given up, and no matter how many times I fall, I will not stay down, but return to the lord time and again, and hopefully one day I can be free. Please pray for me, as I will pray for all of you out there also.

  • Aaaaarrrrrriiiiiinnnnnnaaaaaa

    I am a 12 year old girl. Shocker right? And I watch porn every couple of months when my mind goes completely bizerk and I completely let myself do it. I hate it really but I get in this mood and my body it like gets all tingly. I want to stop so bad but it’s so tempting. I hate myself that I ever started watching it. I really want to stop and I know one of the first things I need to do is acknowledge that I do it but that’s so hard. I can’t just walk up to my parents and be like I’m addicted to porn because then they would kill me. They are very strict Pentecostal Christians and I am trying to be he best christian ever but this sin is blacking me. I want to have a strong relationship with god but this sin is distracting me. HELP

    • Nancy

      Seek out your parents first, they should be blessed leads to your life. The fact that the enemy keeps you hiding and you are allowing this is not good for you or the sin you are in. Find something to do other than the computer or phone or where ever you are getting porn from, Turn to God on a real note and stop allowing yourself to make excuses on how they will react. Think about it did you expect you to be reacting that way to porn…expect the unexpected, God hears you child just turn to him and allow your parents in, they are there for a reason…YOU!!! You are special and a beautiful child in God as are all of you young children. Your minds can be reset in him. He is the light and pure love you are, you just need to reach out to the ones around you that God blessed you with to lead you out of this.

  • Anon

    I was sexually molested at a very young age by my cousin, I never told anyone because they were only ever faint memories and I was to young to know what was going on. the topic of sex was never discussed with me other than you shouldn’t do it, so I didn’t know what it was or what my cousin did was bad, ever since then I would have these strange feelings when I thought of kissing or boys ect. I’ve always had those feelings and I never new they we’re bad. My friends would tell me about sex related subjects and I would listen in curiosity and through those friends I was introduced to porn. But it wasn’t till my sophomore year that it finally hit me that I was sexually molested (I did tell my mom about it I don’t know how she handled it) but once I found out what it was I was in way to deep, this has been a life time struggle and I’m still facing it I’ll have draw backs a lot. The main problem is that I’m an artist so I can draw my own porn if i really want it so it’s hard to destroy any porn I have because I could always make more. I am a very week girl I don’t know what to do I’ve tried everything I’ve even talked to my bishop. I need all the prays I can get, please help!

  • VinceJ

    I was 1st exposed to porn at 5yrs old. As a kid with a TV in my room, I knew when all those dirty HBO shows came on. After gettin rid of it, my mind never forgot those images and later internet porn started when I was 15. I promised God I would never go back when I became a reborn believer freshman year in college. I’ve broken that promise about 1000+ times since. It’s messed me up in so many ways now and really needin mental, emotional, and spiritual help.

  • holly

    I pray for you Tyler I’m 12 and I cant stop I destroy it all but then I find me for some reason it interests me help!!!

  • Daniel

    Hi I’m also a teenager, 13 to be exact, though I’m not a convert to Christianity; I was born and raised as a very religious Catholic, though I have succumbed and been addicted to pornography and masturbation (and still am addicted). Someone please pray for me, I often try to control myself by restricting my internet and such, but I always fail, and I waste my time too much when I should be studying. I really like the bible and cross idea, though I’m afraid it doesn’t work for me; I am little to not religious at all, unfortunately. I realize I need God’s help, but I often find myself pondering about his existence, and the irrationalities that would be caused if he did exist. For example, I am very studious, and cannot possibly find a link between our perception of the world around us (science), and God’s will. This is why I recognize I need to be saved, and to at least stop committing this sin.
    This is also not the only problem. I attend a prestigious Catholic all-boys high school in the United States as a freshman, however though such is the case, I realize that the students are not exempt from sinful acts. We have thee yearly school dances (excluding semi-formal and prom) in which we invite girls from our sister schools, and I have taken part in sinful acts during these dances, for example: Grinding, making out with someone I do not know, etc. I realize these acts are wrong but I cannot stop myself from continuing to do them. Someone please help me urgently and I hope that that someone may find the chance to pray for me, however short and sweet the prayer is. Thanks

  • Matthew

    I have been addicted to pornography since I was 14 years old, when I didn’t have any belief in God, I started watching back then and it had taken over my life. I was completely ruined from my core because of it. When I was 16 the Lord Jesus Christ found me and made me one of his own children! I felt so blessed and when I found out pornography was a sin I would try to stop, I made it for about a month… And then I relapsed from it. I would go through binges and purges constantly and am still going through them, and I’m 18 now. I’ll go 6 months completely clean and then I fall and screw up, and then the dreaded process repeats. Leaving me saddening deeper despair everyone I fail. I’ve tried so hard and looked for answers everywhere on the net…even now. I have a counselor I talk to about this, and I’m going to follow these steps. But what I need right now is prayers. Please pray for me! I need it for sure. Thank you

  • blacksmith

    porn and lust have always been my greatest battle ….I am serving CHRIST for about 8 years again ….God has worked in a mysterious way to get me sexually sober and abstinent….im not married so no sex and no masturbation and no use of porn …ive had 3 years of abstinence..1 year …8 months and currently under 4 months…..this has been achieved by going to sexaholics anonymous…I could never achieve more than a week before by going to church only…we have many bible believers there though this not a requirement…..I cannot talk in depth with believers who are not porn addicts…they may mean well but they don’t get it…..sa(not sla or saa ..more liberal about sex) gives me accountability that I never realized was crucial…it works for me and I have many Christian friends there and have share my faith with so many …..12 steps are biblical principles and have given me more depth in my faith….ive tried Christian 12 step groups that deal with all addictions but I don’t always feel comfortable sharing with addicts of a different nature.check out nate larkin testimony in his book Samson and the pirate monks.

  • Tony

    Hi, I really ashamed to even write this now, but I believe it is the first step to resolving my addiction. I have been addicted to porn and masturbation for many years. I am now 42y and I believe I start masturbating and getting addicted to porn since being a teen. I am married or when I had girlfriend I just could not stop masturbating. This is a disease for me that I really need to overcome and request your help and prayers. I watch porn and masturbate daily sometimes twice or three times a day. I am really sick but I just can´t stop. I feel disgust and sick with myself after doing the act and made many promises that I will not do it, but keep going back to it even if sometimes I manage to restraint myself for a while. It does not matter even if I made love to my wife, this addiction is killing. Please pray for me so that Jesus Christ in His mercy will give me strength to beat this addiction and live as a Christian. Being someone who believes in Jesus Christ and still falling in this everyday of my life I can remember is just too much. I can not handle it any more I need help. This addiction has now lead to the destruction of my marriage, my life, my relationship with Jesus Christ and my God. Please pray for me and help me

  • Laura

    Its the same with me I always say to myself
    “I’m stopping I can overcome this struggle to become someone purer”
    But in the end I always fail and I am ashamed of my actions and this addiction is eating me from the inside out
    I will pray for you and everyone eles who seeks guidance away from these urges that are eating away at up
    I just need someone to pray for me to

    • David

      Keep fighting Laura! Jesus victory over death gives us victory over addiction! I have been going through one of the hardest difficult seasons of my life the past 2 months. I have never been more tempted because of it and have begun to experience depression. However be encouraged you are not alone and because of the church we can all encourage one another to look to Christ and keep running. I hope you find that comforting and I hope you continue fighting my fellow warrior! We can do this

  • Laura

    Try to spend less time alone in a room or at home with a phone of computer or laptop go out with your friends and hang out some where appropriate or spend more time with your family if you suddenly feel an urge lurking around get away from that device go make yourself a snack distracte yourself go on a electronic diet even there are lots of things you can do

  • Susan

    I would like to ask for a world that is porn-free. When I was twelve, I accidentally found my way to porn. I was searching on my phone for books about dragons, for I was into fantasy. At the time, I had no idea what sex was. I clicked into a book called “The Dragon Lord’s Daughters”. I still remember it. It was very new to me, I was interested, and I felt really ashamed as well. Slowly, I worked my way to internet porn, BDSM, hentai, and all of that nonsense. I have no idea what to do. It was, and is terrible for me. I am hardly an immoral person. Although I do not believe in God, I believe in humanity, beauty in life, and goodness in humans. I always prided myself on morality. I have no idea what got into me. Perhaps I had a tendency that I was born with, perhaps you can say I chose to do it by furthering everything. Still, I have no idea what to do, and it is seriously interfering with my life. I feel awful as if I am no longer fit to be ‘human’ anymore, and reading website such as these only make me feel guiltier. I considered suicide, but I am too much of a coward to even run away. XD
    Help? Please? Please don’t be mad at me.

  • Abby

    Hi. My name is Abby and I’m a teen. No one understands hiw difficult this addiction is for me. I know it’s wrong and I know I need to stop. I’m really trying, but I keep falling. I feel like God is tired of forgiving me already. I’m tired of forgiving myself already. I need help and I don’t have anyone I can trust. I’m alone in this… someone, please anyone help. I don’t doubt God’s power, but I need help. Now, fast. I feel disgusted with my own self, apart from being Chistian, I’m a girl! Usually boys my age get trapped in porn addiction. I feel hopeless, helpless, and useless. I just… I don’t know. I just want this, all of this to end…

  • http://3circles.info PaulM

    One thing I would recommend is one of the 12 Step Programs that are out there that deal with pornography and sex addiction. SAA, SA, SLAA, and SCA are all organizations that are focused on recovery from addiction to sex and pornography. They use a number of the steps that are mentioned in this article.

  • David Froman

    My name is David and I have battled pornography for 10 years. For the past year I have had victory and have had a couple stumbles but not serious. However the past 2 months my fiance and I called off our wedding, and recently broke up. I went back to it and it cost me my semester next fall. I have not felt depression but I have felt it so much lately and want help desperately. I thought this battle was not as intense as it used to be and now with the wedding called off, broken relationship with her, I have found myself struggling with it more. Please lift me up in prayer. That I may find healing during this time!

  • David

    Cindy,
    I know this situation is so difficult. I want to let you know I have been struggling in this battle for a long time and know i am on the path to recovery. One of the most helpful things my fiance did for me when I was fighting this battle is praying for me and asking me what she could pray for me. I never met a woman who prayed for my purity so often. The best thing your husband needs is your love and prayer for him. Most porn addicts return back to porn or worse conceal it when they feel they can’t be honest with another person. Its an awful sin and such an evil weapon our flesh can be capable of. Share with him your heart and love for him and what it does to you when he looks at it. I promise he will see differently. I hope this is helpful. God Bless you Cindy

  • Herb

    To dragoh and Cindy
    Porn nearly destroyed my relationship with my beautiful wife. She found a group where I could take a course and support and accountability to help me overcome. Cindy, unless your husband joins a support group and does the work of recovery he will never stop. He needs to join a group like sexaholics anonymous or from a christian perspective such groups as Pure Desire, you can find them at puredesire.org or freedom groups; find those from heart to heart counseling colorado springs. there are groups all over the US and Canada

  • Alex

    Don’t think nothing might trouble you because your masterbaiting, thinking that only god is mad at you. I’ve been caught in this addiction for so many years, I begin to see demons in my dreams, up close face, jumpscares, everyday nightmares. When i’m alone I hallucinate a lot, but they seem like something was moving way too often. A lot of sleep paralysis, and no motivation in life. Only way out is finding and grasping to god.

  • Crous De Villiers

    I have an addiction to porn and it has ruined my life. I am married and my wife wants a divorce she told me that it disgusts her and she doesn’t know if she can have me without her thinking about that and knowing that I have watched it. I have met with a therapist and she don’t have any advice as of right now and my wife has moved out and told me she doesn’t want to be with me if I keep it up. I pray for God’s strength to help me and have thought about it a lot but always tell myself it’s all in the mind and that I don’t need it but still need help with it.

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