When a man is ensnared by sexual sin — soft-core or hard-core pornography, Internet liaisons, or adultery — his wife’s love and trust are shattered. However, if he chooses purity — and if his wife chooses mercy — trust can blossom again amidst the ruins.
The book Every Heart Restored is coauthored by a husband and wife team who faced his sexual sin and successfully rebuilt their marriage. Healing can begin, the authors say, when both people face the truth and confront the problem head on. The husband must understand that he needs to return to living by God’s boundaries rather than his own. Below is an excerpt from their book.
Men are slower at understanding relationships, and we can’t forget that our husbands have blind spots that result from their hardwiring. Your goal is to speed up his learning curve by grinding with the iron and pointing out clearly what God means by being trustworthy.
Insist that your husband stop drawing his own lines for sin.
New Life Ministries offers the Every Heart Restored Workshop for married women whose husbands are involved in or are in recovery from pornography or infidelity. For more information, visit their Web site.
Used by permission of New Life Ministries. New Life Ministries has a variety of resources on men, women and relationships. Call 1-800-NEW-LIFE or visit www.newlife.com. “Four Ways to Defend God’s Boundaries with Your Husband,” taken from the book Every Heart Restored by Steve Arterburn and Brenda & Fred Stoeker.