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When the honeymoon is over, many husbands and wives find themselves
thinking and saying words they never expected to say. For example:
“I’m getting out. This isn’t the person I thought I was marrying.
Life is too short for all of this pain. We’re no longer good
for one another.”
“We’ve tried everything. Nothing seems to work. He just insists
on having everything his own way. It’s hopeless. The only thing
to do is bail out.”
“This is the third millennium. Marriage doesn’t mean what it
used to. A lot of people aren’t even bothering with a ceremony
anymore. You try it; and if it doesn’t work, you leave it. It’s
nothing to get moralistic about.”
“Look at how high the divorce rate is. Everybody’s getting a
divorce—even prominent church leaders. So why should I suffer
through a bad marriage? There’s no need for me to be the exception.”
“Our marriage needs a little excitement. We’re too used to each
other. Maybe if I have an affair, it will put the spice back
into our marriage.”
“We’ve been going from counselor to counselor. I don’t know
how much money we’ve spent. We even went to a preacher. Somebody
must have the right formula for us. I guess we’ll just have
to keep searching.”
“I know our marriage will eventually work. Once I’ve had a few
drinks, I can tolerate just about anything. It will help me
make it until things get better.”
“I guess I’m destined to a life of unhappiness. There’s nothing
I can do about my marriage. Maybe when the children all leave
home I’ll have the courage to get out. Until then, I’ll just
have to pretend everything’s okay.”
Divorce. Extramarital affairs. Counselors. Alcohol. Drugs. Resignation.
These are just some of the ways people are trying to deal with
troubled marriages. But most of the time, efforts to kill the
pain make a bad situation worse.
There is another way—a better way. Even if you are ready to
call a lawyer. Even if reconciliation seems hopeless. You can
go to Someone who understands your heart and your trouble. He
made marriage in the first place. He alone can offer you the
inner strength you need so that you can take the first step.
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