What would you do? - Marriage Bed augmentation

Berretta · Newbie Joined: 10 Dec 2002 Posts: 10

Hi,

I have been married for a number of years and recently my wife and I have been interested in purchasing sexual augmentation devices to enhance your sex lives. This is a first for both of us and well we were wondering if other couples have gotten to this point. What did you decide to do or not do? Did you feel this was sinful or just something different to try.

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Janine · Posted: Wed Dec 11, 2002 5:06 am Post subject:

I am not the world's most mature person, so of course I grinned over the topic...

Not laughing at you, sweetie, just the idea.

As with most things, you will get a lot of different answers with a question like that one. Make sure you two both have it settled in your own minds before you act or don't act on this. Otherwise, at least one of you will feel put-upon and used, whichever decision.

Some would say a sex toy is just a useful tool, a prop for fun, no more a problem than a pink lightbulb in the bedside lamp for "atmosphere".

Some would gasp & feel like an abomination had crawled into the bedroom if their spouse ever suggested such a thing, never mind starting something.

I'm interested in whether anyone will come back with a Scripture they can attach to the idea of sex toys!

As for whether or not my hubby and I have ever gone that route... weeell... I'll have to think about that one. What "counts"?

djchuang · Newbie Joined: 18 Dec 2002 Posts: 2 Location: Bethesda, MD

Berretta wrote:

I have been married for a number of years and recently my wife and I have been interested in purchasing sexual augmentation devices to enhance your sex lives.

I believe mutual consent within your marriage is most important. If you both have this Christian liberty, a clear conscience, and an adventurous playfulness *ahem*, then you can explore accordingly. If not, then don't. Sad

Found this great Christian marriage web site with an article titled "What's OK? What's Not?" at http://www.themarriagebed.com/whatisokay.shtml

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

Sin is not an event, it is a warning sign- Danager Ahead

It isn't what is ok or not ok, but rather what does it lead to? Thoses "things" which are brought into the bedroom can become "crutches". The question is do these practices increase or decrease "intimacy"? Once you strip away intimacy you're simply left with a physical act.

Berretta · Newbie Joined: 10 Dec 2002 Posts: 10

Just to clarify, there are no intimacy issues at play. Nor would it be a constant. It is merely an experiment to satisfy our curiousity. Smile

Thanks for the concern though.

keala · Newbie Joined: 14 Nov 2002 Posts: 17

No real reply I just wanted to say thank you for putting a smile on my face. Your topic caught me by surprise and Janine I loved your reply, you are wonderful.

Wynne · Full Member Joined: 03 Dec 2002 Posts: 109 Location: USA

What came to mind for me, when I read this thread tonight, is perhaps similar to what Davep said.

My only true worry would be that an object, a location, or something else should become a hindrance, or have any importance of its own.

Viagra (surely no one else here is of an age to think about that! :laugh: ), or a tantalizing nightie, might be an aid or an idol.

There is a difference between a role-play, for example, and fantasizing about someone who is not your spouse.

Berretta · Newbie Joined: 10 Dec 2002 Posts: 10

I have to say that the answers given have been quite encouraging. I have been encountering so many Christians who seem so secretive that i have been hesitant to talk about what was on my mind and to build each other up by sharing what we humanly go through. But you all have help to restore that and I now feel a little more open about pushing the envelope a little to create some relationships that are deeper than just sports and idle talk.

Thanks

Wynne · Full Member Joined: 03 Dec 2002 Posts: 109 Location: USA

If one cannot be 100% open and honest when one is anonymous, behind a keyboard and computer screen, when can one?

webacus · Posted: Sat Dec 21, 2002 9:37 am Post subject:

Beretta, I would say go for it.

As long as...
1] Mutual consent
2] No pain involved
3] This is not a frequent substitution for normal sex.

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 1989 Location: Chicago

Openess and honesty is what you will find here.

I'm with Webacus on this one.
Having fun together is important.

It cannot be forced on either partner in any way. It has to be a mutual decision. Items are to be purchased together with each other, not alone.

Janine · Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2003 9:12 pm Post subject:

giggle
especially if the place you go to buy the things is as... interesting-looking... as the hot pink building in our community where one might expect to find such things...
chuckle

Can you see the word going around town & getting back to one spouse, about the other being seen going there?!

???

There's always mail order... I'm not sure the 'Net is the way to go, for fear of what sort of email you'd have to put up with from getting on that sort of mailing list...

84-1043949293 · Guest

I've just found a really helpful site for stuff like enhancers and other things...the web address is:

www.themarriagebed.com

It's a Christian run site so they give advice from the bible about what's right and other topics. Their articles are really good. They also have links to other websites (some are Christian) where you can buy stuff like vibrators and games for couples and books. The site is really well done and the links are tasteful. I highly reccommend it to anyone with interest in keeping romance in their marriage and marital sex exciting and adventurous

Wynne · Full Member Joined: 03 Dec 2002 Posts: 109 Location: USA

It certainly is a touchy subject, my dears.

Was that a pun? ???

Thank our God the people claim to follow the Blessed Lord on their site.

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