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mcbel
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 Posted: Thu Jan 18, 2007 10:00 pm Post subject: what is abandonment? |
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Is lack of support during a legal separation, dishonesty and always having to cancel on plans a form of abandonment? My spouse says he wants usback but this is usual behavior for him .The husband is supposed to financially pull his weight right? Is irresponsibility abandonment? (this is
ongoing in all areas of the marrige but he always says the the right thing
leaving me confused and if I get annoyed with these things I feel guilty at
being unforgiving) Biblical insight only please....yes I have a pastor,and
church home. I just need help clarifying before I go back. |
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SAM
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Location: Chicago
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Here are two articles in Growthtrac that I believe do a great job of defining emotional and physical abandonment. They outline some very good steps toward restoration. Hope that helps.
http://www.growthtrac.com/artman/publish/article_568.php
http://www.growthtrac.com/artman/publish/article_194.php
I think lack of true intimacy with Christ on an individual basis in the single most contributing factor to abandonment. It's called running away to hide our sinful nature so no one can see us - including God.
| Quote: | | Dishonesty and always having to cancel on plans a form of abandonment? |
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No to your questions. This is more a matter of character and the condition of his heart. If he truly wants you back together, then his actions would reflect it. I believe he's playing games. |
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KAS
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| Posted: Sat Jan 20, 2007 8:39 am Post subject: Thanks |
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| The articles are helpful. Thank you. |
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mcbel
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Thank You Sam for the articles. I gained from the second but I
have to admit on the first while I believe that one should try and be pleasing to your spouse, one would have to be careful or the list could
become endless. ie: I wouldn't do "A" if you would do this then it could escalate. People in general like their cake and eat it too unless encouraged or forced to make a choice in their behavior. Especially if
one keeps adding to the cake.
Or maybe I need to read the article again?  |
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