greenwidow
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 Posted: Wed Oct 24, 2007 9:07 am Post subject: Friends outside the couple |
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I don't know how to convince my husband that several of his friends are really not good for our relationship. I have been on my knees about this for over a year. There are two that worry me incredibly, because their lifestyle is based on whether or not something makes me feel good. There is no God, even if they profess Christianity. One has had repeated affairs on his wife, whether she is aware or not is undetermined. The other divorced his wife and took up with a much younger woman.
My husband has made excuses for the actions of these men in the last year. He was at a loss of explanation when the one picked up a woman in front of us at a public function. The other's divorced wife ended up in our church a few weeks ago. It kind of blew away the picture of the raving lunatic that she had been painted as. To this point he had pushed it off as a set of bad women that "forced" their men to do stupid things, by their actions. My husband had the same attitude until God made him do a head jerk.
All three men are long term members of a small organization that none will be leaving anytime soon. I tried for the last year to have my husband see the need for him to witness to his friends. Its harder to witness to your friends than your enemies, sometimes.
Last night, around a quarter to ten my husband got a phone call from one of these men and he requested that my husband join him out on the town. When I said I would be willing to go with my husband to meet this man, he declined the invitation.
Avoiding these people is not a possibility. My husband has been a part of the social environment that they all associated with for too long and many of the members are closer than family to him. |
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webacus
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Joined: 02 Mar 2001
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Location: Behind you.
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| Posted: Wed Oct 24, 2007 9:56 am Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | Avoiding these people is not a possibility. |
He's (knowingly) putting his lifestyle before your needs.
Obviously.
It's sounding like you have communicated your displeasure
to your husband, so I'm guessing he's refused counseling?
I strongly suggest professional, Christian counseling
for the two of you-- if he refuses, you need to go yourself. |
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