Prayer Request for acceptance of God's Will

His_Favorite · Newbie Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 3 Location: California

Hi!! I'm new to the forum but have been coming onto the website for a little over a year. I just love growthtrac! I love the articles, and resources. Thank you guys so much for what you do.

Well I am writing today for a prayer request for myself. I was dating a guy for 10 months, and in July we broke up. Over the last three months prior to the break up, we both felt strong pressure to separate. At first we thought it was just the devil and of course the common struggles of a christian couple living for God but as we began to continue dating the feeling got stronger and so after constant prayer and crying, we decided to end the relationship. We are both young (21), graduating seniors in college, and felt that God spoke to us about marriage not immediately but eventually. Since the break up we have remained friends, we've even grown closer, we still serve in ministry at church, some people still don't know that we aren't dating because we are respectful to one another, it wasn't a messy break up because we want to get back together.

It's been 3 months and it's so hard for me to accept this decision that was made. I really feel in my heart that he is my husband. I believe that God told me that. I know that I am young and that there is plenty of time for us to be together and eventually marry but sometimes it's hard to really accept it. Sometimes people at church will ask if it is God who asked us to separate, or was it us.

I love my ex/best friend, but I want to really be able to accept God's Will for my life. If it's for me to be separated then I want to enjoy it because right I want to be with him and even though it was a smooth break up, my heart still longs to be with him. I consider it an honor to be his friend but I want more from our relationship.

I think another aspect of this situation has been, me asking God if I failed him, because I've just started walking with the Lord and really following him for the last 2 years of my life and I keep asking him where did I go wrong. Did I put my ex before Him? Did I not honor, love and respect him like I should? It's just confusing.

So after all of that, my prayer is that I would be able to accept God's Will and Plan for my life, for in Jeremiah 29:11 says that He knows the plans and they are not to harm me but to prosper me and give me a future and a hope. So yeah please pray for me, and pray for us.

His_Favorite

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 2164 Location: Chicago

Hi there - and welcome. We're so glad you posted.

Having married young myself (19), I oh so understand where you're coming from.

God truly wants to give us the desires of our hearts, but sometimes He says, "Not Now - Wait". And, that is the hard part - waiting on the Lord.

I am a firm believer in Holy Spirit nudges and it appears that may be what the two of you received when you were getting this restless feeling that it was time to breakup.

You may be experiencing a little bit of grieving - after all, you've lost a relationship that meant a lot to you. It's not unusual for you to miss it. But, if you find that you think of him all too much throughout your day - he's obsessing/taking over your thoughts - then it may be time to meet with a counselor a few times to help you sort these feeling out.

The Lord stands before us and say, "Me first". Nothing else come before me. So often in my own life, that is not the case. Sad

But, he gently reminds me that I need to come to him, first before anything else or anyone else throughout my day. When I put Him first, everything else seems to gently fall back into place.

I have prayed for you this morning that the Lord will bring you wisdom and understanding for your situation. That you lean on Him daily, for the ache in your heart - asking him to fill that up for you with His love. I've asked Him to wrap His arms around you and hug you with all His might, so you do not feel lonely.

His_Favorite · Newbie Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 3 Location: California

Thank you SAM for the honest words and encouragement.

rdsmith3 · Veteran Joined: 04 Oct 2006 Posts: 391 Location: NJ

I got married (the first time) when I was 23, right out of college. In hindsight, I wish I had waited a bit, and I might have seen some signs that I missed. More than anything, my biggest mistake was that at that point in my life, I was not following the Lord, and I was not considering what He wanted for my life.

I applaud your wisdom in stopping to ask God what He wants in your life, and also realizing that you have to get your relationship right with Him before anything else. As much as you might be in love with this person, you will come to realize that no human being can meet all your needs. No human being can make you fulfilled and joyous. Only the Lord can do that.

Now having said that, I also believe that we have to be very careful about knowing God's will. The best way to know God's will is to study His word regularly, and apply it to our lives. I recommend that you subscribe to the growthtrac e-mails about knowing God's purpose. It helps you to understand better how to discern what God's will is in our lives. I have personally been led astray by two different well-meaning Christians who guided me in a certain direction because it was "on their heart". I was a young, naive Christian at the time, and did not realize that the direction they were pointing was not Biblical.

I hope this helps. I pray that you and your friend will discover God's purpose for your lives, and that you will have the patience to wait on God.

Trust me -- it is so much easier when we do things His way and not our way. I wish I had learned that lesson at your age.

His_Favorite · Newbie Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 3 Location: California

Wow, thank you for that, I guess sometimes I do get impatient but I do feel God showing me how to let HIM be my everything, and fulfill my needs as only he can. As ready as I sometimes think I am, only God can truly let me know when that time is, so thank you for your words as I continue to serve God as I wait on him. Where can I subscribe to the e-mails you wrote about? I think they would be helpful.

His_Favorite

rdsmith3 · Veteran Joined: 04 Oct 2006 Posts: 391 Location: NJ

The e-mail devotional I was referring to can be found here:
http://www.growthtrac.com/devotional/

then check the one for Knowing God's Purpose.

I also subscribe to the Daily Marriage Minute.

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