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Janine · Posted: Mon Jun 10, 2002 9:20 pm Post subject:

Never has my husband seemed manlier, more Godly, more intelligent, more attractive, more desireable, more... just more... than when I've gone through a season of seriously holding him up to the Lord in thanks and intercession, and speaking only of his glowing positives to others.

Amazing, how a merely pretty nice guy became someone I'd follow anywhere, because I know he'd only lead me closer to God. Smile

It sounds easy to say "wait" and "marry only a Christian man, and only one as mature as you or more so", when after 20 years I've finally gotten closer to being as spiritually mature as he, and the both of us have had our rough edges pummeled down a bit...

But, since I do have a 20-year perspective on marriage, and almost a 20-year perspective as a commited Christian, I have to say, cut out the preliminary pain! Marry a Christian!

danielle · Full Member Joined: 19 Apr 2002 Posts: 232

Hi Janine,
Glad to hear where you are currently at in your marriage.

I have a question regarding your closing comments of:

"It sounds easy to say "wait" and "marry only a Christian man, and only one as mature as you or more so", when after 20 years I've finally gotten closer to being as spiritually mature as he, and the both of us have had our rough edges pummeled down a bit...But, since I do have a 20-year perspective on marriage, and almost a 20-year perspective as a commited Christian, I have to say, cut out the preliminary pain! Marry a Christian!"

Are you saying that your husband wasn't a Christian when you became married? Or that you both weren't? It sounds like you were the mature one in the Lord and then your husband came to be that way, but then when you say you are finally as mature as he, I wasn't sure if it was the other way around or something. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. I have some *serious* concerns regarding this subject (spiritual maturity differences & coping with that) myself.

Janine · Posted: Thu Jun 13, 2002 9:37 am Post subject:

Mike was a Christian since about age 12, but was walking pretty far away from the Lord by the time a worldly little Catholic girl caught his eye.

We were married with me 6 months pregnant, still not a Christian (you can be a Catholic without being a Christian, y'know...).

Baby #1 was born in August; #2 the next August; major potentially crippling football injury hit Mike that season; the church's rallying around us during that time, and Mike realizing he'd better get back to the Lord in earnest with two little girls and a wife to lead, is what whacked me over the head. My Damascus Road experience, you might say. I was converted in the spring of 1983.

Then Lorelei drowned, about 3 days after her first birthday.

How do people go through the loss of a child without the Lord? Sad

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 2162 Location: Chicago

Thanks for sharing Janine. That is quite a story.

We have walked a journey with our oldest daughter this year. Our daughter and her fiance are Christians.
She gave birth to a beautiful little grandson named Isaiah (born Feb. 15, 2002) , but she is a single mom and has been living with us. Her and her fiance have worked through counseling, marriage seminars and being mentored by another couple.

I am so grateful they have taken the time to work through all of their "stuff" before walking down the aisle. We are so blessed in that they are being married this coming Sunday, Father's Day. We have learned a great deal about God's grace and blessings this year. I have learned a great deal about how words tear down and building them up in the Lord can strengthen.

The greatest gift my daughter gave me was saying, "Mom, I used to be worried about us, but I'm not any longer. We're going to be OK."

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