SAM
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Joined: 03 Mar 2001
Posts: 1989
Location: Chicago
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 Posted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 12:46 pm Post subject: |
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Love and Respect is a great book. I just finished reading it myself this past weekend.
The only thing to do at this point is lift this up to God and ask Him to take control of this situation. Pray specifically that God will convict your husband's heart to recognize that alone time with another woman is not beneficial to him or his marriage.
To help you feel "safe" which appears to be something you need,( it would be something I would need too) ask him to consider not visiting this woman alone and perhaps to take a buddy with. I would be OK if my husband was with another friend. What's happening, perhaps in his lonliness, is he is bonding his heart to this woman instead of to you.
Pastors have often found themselves in sexual sin when they minister to someone who is hurting and find out later they have developed a deep emotional bond with this individual.
A couple of times you said your husband is a compassionate guy and a natural care-giver. It sounds like he is. But, it's really important for you to put protective hedges around your marriage, especially when you are apart.
Having been raised in a military family, my dad was career Army, I know the pain separation of a family can cause. It's not an easy place to be.
Consider some counseling for yourself, as it may help you gain a different perspective in how to communicate with your husband while he is away. What you don't want to do is, make every conversation you have be about this woman. |
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