Need to get real
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Location: Rio Linda, CA
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 Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 1:06 pm Post subject: I run from sex |
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I don't know what is wrong with me but anytime my hubby talks about sex or touches me I can't stand it. I don't even want to be bothered with it. 
I know I am disappointing him just by hearing him, I can't stand the physical condition we have both gotten in. Another part is all he does is lay around and watch tv after work and on the weekends. Nothing gets done, yardwork, fixing pipes or leaks. Doing stuff in the garage. So I have just lost desire but I stilllove him.
Any advice. How do I find desire.
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SAM
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Joined: 03 Mar 2001
Posts: 2164
Location: Chicago
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 1:32 pm Post subject: |
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A night or weekend away is always a good fire starter. It gives you time to talk and time for each other and sometimes a little bit of that ahhhhhhh
that you need from the everyday grind of life that seems to get in the way.
Next, pray, pray and pray some more for God to restore this desire in you. I guarantee if you can find it in yourself to be intimate with him 1-2 times a week, he'll be more motivated to get the chores done around the house for you. Sometimes we all "don't feel like it" but if we can look beyond this and ask God for help us in the moment, look at it as a gift to give our spouse, look at it with a servant's heart to honor them, love them and serve them un-selfishly we can change the mood we are in.
God gave us this gift of sex - it isn't a gift if we don't want to present it to our spouse.
A wonderful book I've come across is called is Red Hot Monogomy by the Farrells. They also wrote Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti.
Consider talking to your doctor and having a complete hormonal workup -
if certain levels are off, it can create diminished desire. |
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