prayer for my husband - marriage

copper · Newbie Joined: 27 Apr 2004 Posts: 1

hi. please pray for my husband. he has left 3 times, and is stating he is going to leave again. i believe he is seeing OW again. please pray a hedge, and for God to bring him home to the Lord. he accepted Christ in September, but is completely, actually worse than before. thank you and God bless.
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Berretta · Newbie Joined: 10 Dec 2002 Posts: 10

All of you experts out there please chime in on this one. Copper, I can't say taht I have the most spiritual response to this just opinion. From my experience in dealing with my spouse not only leaving but pursuing a relationship with another man, I can only say follow your heart and fight for what you want. But at the same time listen to what God may be telling you as well. There are times when we should leave and nake it definitive to our mate that what they are doing is not what God has for us to do no matter how RIGHT it feels to them right now.
I know this is hard. I am still dealing with it myself. I see her everyday and though the divorce is not final yet, I know that it is over. I also regret how I handled it everyday. My wife had an affair and I found out. Instead of taking the hardline then I was very forgiving and begged for my marriage. I asked to compromise so that we could stay together. The end result so far is not what I hoped for. As a matter of fact it is worse. But that is me. Point is really be in tuned to what has in store for you. You may need to let him go and to cut off contact with him until he repents to God and shows some true repentance to you both (God and you) that he will not return to this again and then you may want to take hime back slowly. If that is not how he comes back to you, then let him go and don't look back. God will give you someone better and you will find happiness again, if he wills.

Not to give advice without some precedence, there is a scripture in Jeremiah 3:8 I think that describes how God issued a certificate of Divorce to Israel and Judah, but because of how Israel repented and cried back to God, he accepted them back.
Trust me this is the hardest thing to do and I have to admit that I have not grasped it all myself yet but maybe you can gain peace from this make a move that get's you what you desire and I too, a Whole Family.

God Bless and my prayer is with you.

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 1990 Location: Chicago

We all know God hates divorce, it is not what he wants for us.
We can find this in several verses: Malachi 2:6-16, Deut 24:1-4 and Jer 3:6-8, 1 Corin. 7:10-15, Exodus 21:26-7

God designed a bill of divorce for one reason only - adultery.
And Paul reaffirms Jesus's strong stand for the sanctity of marriage in 1 Corin, but adds only one other exception, when an unbeliever deserts the home and wants out of the marriage. Exodus also addresses the area of physical abuse.

Leaving three times and threatening a fourth calls for some drastic action. There needs to be some accountability involved. Is there a pastor you can go to, a trusted Christian friend who can hold you both up, yet challenge your spouse? A spouse cannot have a perpetual revolving door option in a marriage. That is what you have been going through. There is no mention of counseling, has that been tried? Some churches have maritial restoration classes available. This really calls for intervention. If you have children, this is also not good for them. It is necessary for you to legitimately protect yourself and any children.

Matthew 18:15-17 calls for a 3 step process to take place.
1) A "brother" is a Christian. When they sin, the first step for the offended spouse is to go to them privately and tell them of their disobedience - but do so humbly. Also, look at some of your own responsibility. Do not offend or embarrass them in front of others.
2) If the offending spouse does not listen, the second step is to get two or more others to approach the offending brother or sister. The issues are to be brought up in the offender's presence, with the others there, so all the facts can be sorted out between the parties.
3) Finally, if the offender will not listen to these people and consider change, the Church should be notified. If they will not listen to the church, this makes a believer's offenses in a marriage very serious. Jesus is not saying the one who will not listen to the Church definitely is an unbeliever, but they may be. You may wonder what to do in this case if the person who says they are a Christian has absolutely no involvement with other Christians or a Church. It may be assumed that such a person is really an unbeliever and never gave their hear to Christ.

It is important to allow Time to pass, to review Scripture, to obtain Counsel from Others and to Pray for God's wisdom through all of this.

Lord, I pray that you grab this husband and don't let go of his heart. Turn him upside down, Lord, and bring him to an understanding of what honor, trust and fidelity mean in his marriage. Lord I pray that your will is to keep this family intact and bring them to greater happiness and restoration than they ever thought possible.

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