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agapelove
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Joined: 23 Sep 2002
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What age do you think is an ideal age to start thinking seriously about marriage and to get married?
How long do you think that a christian relationship should last before thinking or getting married?
I just want to start a forum as well thinking about it.
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Janine
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Joined: 08 May 2002
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Location: South Louisiana
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Every individual is different, so it's hard to set a specific age to start or a specific time to wait... We do think that parents can end up very disappointed if they do let their late teen or very young adult kids "date", yet they also pressure them to never-never-never consider marriage until some date horribly far in the future after years of school, etc. You're just asking for trouble.
These are the ideas we've tried to pass on to our kids:
You have no business getting a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" if you are not seriously considering him/her as a mate. No fair wrapping someone's heart around your little finger & expecting all kinds of "couple" stuff from them, like fidelity and putting you before their family, unless you are going to be married. Soon.
In other words, "You can't date 'til you're ready to mate!"
Also, you're playing with fire-- hellfire! -- if you do not take into account the potential spouse also being a Christian! There is enough conflict when the couple are both in the Lord, you don't want the added pressure on the home!
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SAM
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Location: Chicago
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We were at a meeting this afternoon where the speaker said, " If you are not ready to be a parent, you are not ready to be married."
I thought that was a pretty interesting statement and painted a pretty blunt picture. I guess the way I took it, is if you are not willing to give up your previous life, sacrifice for the one you love and give up all selfishness, then you should not be married. No matter what your age may be.
It's late, I'll leave you with that for tonight. |
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