Desiring your spouse to have the SAME passion - One's passion for Christ

danielle · Full Member Joined: 19 Apr 2002 Posts: 232

Do you desire for your spouse (or prospective spouse) to have the SAME passion that you do for Christ?

I was talking with my bf's cousin who is married w/ two children, and we had a pretty interesting convo over lunch (all 3 of us). She is longing for her husband to have the same passion that she does for Christ, and doesn't think she will be happy if he never does. Seems to be a frustrating thing, but she's keeping the faith & being patient. She said its definitely hard, but he is coming along.

Please share your feedback!

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

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to have the SAME passion

The key word, as you have highlighted is same. In marriage we are faced with many imbalances and inequalities. The simple fact is because we live at some level or another in the flesh, two people cannot have the same love for anything, with the same intensity and maintain it on a consistent enough basis, that other spouse can really and honestly may make a fair evaluation of their level of sameness.

When attempting to compare two people's love for something, you inject human judgement. Also equal love for something doesn't mean equal in visual awareness. Women show their emotions, their passion more vividly than most men. Just because you don't see it, or the man doesn't express it, doesn't mean his love it isn't same as yours, only that it doesn't look or have the same shape and size as yours.

How do guage or measure someone's passion for the Lord. How do you measure your own passion? How can you compare your love of the Lord to anyone else?

danielle · Full Member Joined: 19 Apr 2002 Posts: 232

Davep:
I can agree w/ what you're saying. For me personally, my spouse doesn't have to have the same INTENSITY, but I do desire for us both to have the same passion to some extent, meaning us both having a deep, devoted love for Christ and living for him. Women definitely express things differently than men, although my last boyfriend was an on-fire-for-God type of man who definitely showed it in all ways. I think he had a calling on his life, to be quite honest.

To answer your question, I don't think you can measure it. Because we all come from different walks of life and are on different journeys though we may be on the same path. But to know that someone is a true follower of Christ, sold-out, 100% committed is important for ME. Don't know how one's "passion" could go unknown if this is all evident. It would definitely be expressed to some extent.

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

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But to know that someone is a true follower of Christ

That is what it boils down to. It is not a question of equal passion, interest, etc. etc. It is simply is your BF, spouse, or whatever even a Christian in the first place? The problem today is calling oneself a Christian, is the same as calling oneself an American. Basically if you believe in God and like and believe the movie accounts of Jesus you saw on TV, you're in; you're a Christian.

To many so-called Christians have a Life-Insurance Policy approach, they believe, but put their faith in the safety deposit box at the bank, and don't worry about doing anything else until they die. And for that matter they couldn't tell you what makes them a Christian. They forgot.

The question should be rephrased:

Do you desire for your spouse (or prospective spouse) to to be a PRACTICING Christian? : Wink

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danielle · Full Member Joined: 19 Apr 2002 Posts: 232

True....but I think one's passion level gets deeper. You can both be practicing Christians and still encounter one serving God in a different way than the other---but both being equally fine. One being quiet, the other outspoken, but that doesn't lessen either walk, that's just how they are, yet they are both "practicing."

I think one's passion tells something different. But again we are all at different points so no one is necessarily in the "wrong" place. You just may desire to be with someone who has the same passion as you, to have less of a mismatch, that's all.

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

Same Passion?

It is like cheese in a cheeseburger. When there is cheese, you really don't notice that it is there, it's apart of the whole taste experience. Only when the cheese is missing do we notice something is wrong with the taste. We tend to notice things which are out of balance more so than those things which are in balance.

Equal passion is a elusive goal. What would happen if your mate's passion for the Lord, passed yours, and he was now having doubts about your passion and walk?

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