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j3anjean
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Location: Michigan
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 Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 12:40 pm Post subject: He's really trying |
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Our family had a wonderful weekend and my husband is trying SO hard. I struggle with this little voice inside my head that condemns or questions or doubts every action he takes. I am so touched when he brings me flowers or takes me to dinner or tells me he loves me - and then this little voice will whisper, "Does he think this will make up for what he has done?" or "Why is he being so nice? what has he done this time?" I hate that voice, that feeling. I know it is the devil himself trying to ruin the restoration of my marriage.
Please pray for me that I will be able to receive my husband's loving gestures, without being suspicious or hurt. Please pray that I will heal from his betrayal and not carry this sadness around like a cloak I can hide under. We are going to a marriage conference on Friday (the one advertised in the sidebar on Growthtrac) I am praying this helps us reconnect and move forward. I'm tired of the past and want to move out of it!
Faith, Hope and Love
Jeannie |
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SAM
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Location: Chicago
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I am praying for you.
There's a little excercise of prayer that I do whenever I am having negative thoughts about my husband.
I stop and immediately say to God, "Please take these thoughts from me and fill them with your love." Sometimes, I have to say it 100 times  , but the fact that I am praying this and conversing with God always takes the negativity away. |
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j3anjean
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| Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 6:16 am Post subject: |
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| I guess I need to try the 100 times part. I pray for the bad thoughts to be lifted-but then feel discouraged when they aren't. I need to be more persistant! Thank you, Sam. |
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FaithHopeJoy
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Dear Jeannie
I totally understand your struggle to banish doubts and suspicions about your husband's motives. If you don't succeed in banishing those negative thoughts, it can be almost impossible to appreciate ANY efforts he makes, can't it? I read this Bible verse (Mark 11:24) and lifted you both up in prayer today:
| Quote: | | Therefore I say to you, all things for which you pray and ask, believe that you have received them, and they will be granted you. |
I continue to pray that my H will shake free from the OW and be able to invest time and energy in our marriage again - and there are tiny seeds of hope springing up. God has revealed that I need to be more observant and to recognise the smallest signs and be encouraged, because it's unlikely there will be grand romantic gestures for a long time! I am having to rely on my memories of my H's passionate/intimate side at the moment! |
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j3anjean
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Location: Michigan
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God bless you, FHJ. I will pray for you and your husband as well. When we look closely, we can see the seeds of hope and love, can't we?
I want to be receptive to my husband and all of his efforts. He truly is a wonderful husband (in every other way). I am certainly my own worst enemy. I was thinking about this last night. I think I am going to start making a list-of every kind thing he does for me. When I am hurting or angry or wanting to reject his efforts I am going to review my list. I think it might give me the perspective I need to get thru this. |
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