Unfaithful wife and I need your prayers

Kreg · Newbie Joined: 24 Jan 2007 Posts: 2 Location: Atlanta,GA

Unfaithful wife tore out my heart. She's begged forgiveness, and is trying to deal with guilt (not doing so well). I'm trying to build back my trust in her and accept her affair as a mistake (as well as my own mistakes reguarding her needs that lead us to this point), but am having a very difficult time letting it go. Please pray for our healing, and success in getting over this. I love her.
Kreg

aprild · Junior Member Joined: 24 Jan 2007 Posts: 36

I am going through the same thing and I feel your pain I will keep you in my prayers.

Kreg · Newbie Joined: 24 Jan 2007 Posts: 2 Location: Atlanta,GA

Thank you for your thoughts. I'm sorry that your having the same issues. I pray that you and your husband can get your hearts together again, and all can be well. I know it will take alot of time and even more patience. I'm praying for you too.

Kreg

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 2162 Location: Chicago

Have you started individual as well as couple counseling? If not, the process of healing will be extremely difficult. You cannot handle these issues alone without professional guidance.

I will keep you and your marriages in my prayers for healing, restoration and the guidance of God.

I've just started reading a new book called Experiencing Christ Together by Neil Anderson and Charles Mylander.

Some things that have come back to hit me in the face are:

- You can have two Christians living in a Christian home and not have a Christian marriage.

- Can we truly expect people to behave like Christians when they don't have a clue who they are in Christ?

- Can we expect husbands/wives to act like Christian husbands and wives when they are not experiencing their freedom in Christ, while trying to serve God in their own strength and resources?

- Forget your marriage, your are so torn up on the inside that you probably couldn't get along with your dog right now. But if you are willing to resolve your personal and spiritual conflicts and get radically right with God, there is great hope for your marriage.

- Are you constantly defending yourself and not facing your own sinful behavior? If one spouse cannot or will not deal with his or her own personal issues, establishing oneness in marriage won't be possible.

- Is your relationship with God the most important relationship in your life? Or, are there too many things that compete with God in your life?

I was once in a place of brokeness in my marriage. God has done a wonderful and miraculous healing. It did not take place overnight. It was about a 5-7 year process. In retrospect, that healing and growth toward God had more to do about me, than my husband. Of course, he had his faults and he caused me pain, but I personally had a lot more growing up to do in my relationship with Christ.

This growing toward Christ has to start with the individual, then eventually come together as a couple in building that oneness you desire. You can get there. I know you have been deeply hurt and wounded, but work on yourself too during this time and you won't regret it. I had to look at my own contribution to strife in my marriage. Once I did, it made all the difference in the healing process.

RBrownTN · Junior Member Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 44

rdsmith3 · Veteran Joined: 04 Oct 2006 Posts: 391 Location: NJ

Kreg

My prayers are with you, also. I know it really hurts. Put the pain on the cross.

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