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danielle
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Davep,
What exactly do you mean by "social maturity?" I know we've been exchanging posts, but can you sum it up in one sentence what you mean by this?
I dunno. My feelings are that even believers can be unequally yoked regarding where each other are at in their walk with Christ. It's important that they be on the same page spiritually, since "two cannot walk together unless they are agreed" according to Amos. I've talked to countless Christian wives who wished they would've waited until their hubby was more mature in Christ before marrying them. Here's an excerpt from an article that a co-worker sent me a while ago about this. Share your feedback.
"Picture two oxen both with lame right legs joined together at the yolk to pull their burden. They would only be able to pull in a circle. Or two oxen pulling in different directions. Neither would get very far. When we choose relationships that are not pulling in the same direction it weakens both. It is not enough to just believe in God and be a believer. Both must believe and take a stand in the same way. If both are going in different directions then there is no oneness to the relationship. Their relationship must compliment one another. Being unequally yoked is when two are pulling in different directions. A believer should marry a like-minded believer and not to do so would be to say the least, risky. We have seen many instances where a stronger Christian married a "Professing Christian" who has little or no desire to truly follow the Lord's directions for marriage and life.
Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpen iron, So one man sharpens another. Amos 3:3 Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? Whether it be a business partner, friendship or a lifetime mate, be equally yoked, like-minded. Walk together in agreement and one will sharpen the other. For as in all things you are a team, working together for a like
cause. This is the success of all relationships. Especially those in Christ." |
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Davep
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| Posted: Tue Jun 18, 2002 5:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | What exactly do you mean by "social maturity?" |
Even an atheist can be mature in a lot of respects that one could at first mistake them for being christian. And adult who is socially mature is:
One who has incorporated the training of youth into a new pattern of simplicity dominated by adult stability, wisdom, knowledge, sensitivity to other people, responsibility, strength, and purposefulness. - From Childhood and Adolescence:A Psychology of the Growing Person
Danielle you're "between a rock and a hard place" you have probably traveled so far down your christian walk, that the pool of available men who have also travelled as far as you is considerably smaller. It's hard enough to find someone who you connect with on an emotional and loving level let alone anything else we chose to put on the scales.
Like the person who has developed a keen sense of hearing and love for music; they are not satisfied with a $100 sound system and speakers. The will go crazy because their ears picks out all sorts of imperfections that the rest of us don't hear, yet our enjoyment of the music goes on without a care; we are content and happy.
And while the sound aficionando trys to explain to us what it is we are missing, we do not related to their level of passion.
What does anyone do when the other person doesn't share the same level of passion we do? :inlove: |
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danielle
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Excellent closing question, Davep.
I'd have to say that since we are all on individual journeys, there will be times when we experience on-fireness for God, spiritual dryness, or backslid. So perhaps there will be times where one is on fire, the other isn't, or you both are. So I don't think that person needs to have the SAME passion. But at least be traveling the SAME path with you---both following & submitting to Christ. A true disciple of Christ. It would be even better if they did have the same passion.
Yes, very true about the pool of available men, but you know, I've come to find out that is the general trend overall. There are alot more women in the church than men, and men naturally stray away from God at one point in their lives (usually teen, young adult years), from what I'm coming to find out. The ONE man I did find who had my same passion, we had too many differences on other levels. He was definitely rare, but we were never on the same page in other areas of life. Limited compatibility. But I realize we can't have it all, but for me the spiritual is the most important AND there needs to be compatibility in other areas too as well.
My co-worker definitely admits though that she needs a "saved, sanctified, filled w/ the Spirit" man, because she knows how SHE is. So if that is what she feels she needs, then she's just being honest with herself. I too, desire a spirit-filled mate, because this is how I'm striving to walk my walk. Of course God can always have something else in store for us!
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