Sexual Chemistry

WorkingwithGod · Junior Member Joined: 22 Oct 2006 Posts: 27

This might be bizarre question but one in which I might gain some christian insight.
Do All women (christian or otherwise) want someone confident and totally energetic in bed or are there some that like gentle quiet caring lovers? Are there different types of personalities relating to different types of people or is the bottom line women want to be taken sexually and any guy that isnt confident and is more focused on the caring side of it needs to get tough and stronger? ie quiet subued women like softer lovers and loud confident full on like full on lovers? Can the two mix?

babycakes · Veteran Joined: 06 Mar 2006 Posts: 314 Location: In Prayer

Interesting question.

Personally, I like a little of both.

I also think you need to look at how your husband is wired up by God. Trying to change him into something he is not could be detrimental to sexual intimacy, emotional intimacy, etc.

It's OK for the woman to take initiative to show her husband something different that she would like rather than criticize him for something he is not.

My guess would be that most women would enjoy experiencing the gentle, caring, quiet and sensitive side of their husbands (lots of hugs and kisses), rather than the confident caveman approach. Laughing

cjbaldw · Posted: Thu Nov 16, 2006 10:40 am Post subject:

I'm a guy so I can't speak from a woman's perspective, but I can say that IME the key to a good marital sex life has to do with variety, i.e. get into a rut, no matter if you're the more reserved silent type or the wild and crazy screaming type, and you'll start to experience boredom eventually.

As we age and come to the realization that sex isn't just about orgasm and the physical sensations, but the more important concepts of openly sharing ourselves with each other physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and the fact that our sex lives are more of a portrait of the state of our marriage, then spouses can feel more free to be honest with each other about trying new things as we grow together.

Sometimes, for me at least, a nice slow love making session over hours with showers, massages, teasing and tickling, and so on, is just what I need, other times an emotionally charged "hot" sexual encounter is what the doctor orders. Smile

I know from talking to my wife, sometimes she just wants to be taken while other times she wants to drive. Variety along with open and honest communication about wants and needs is your friend when it comes to marital sexuality.

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