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Emotional Needs :: RE: Marriage of God?!

Author: ladyt
Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 7:50 am (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 93

I am sad to hear that she claimed that she could not help you. She should have been willing to work with you through healing not trying to get you to give up on your marriage. I do agree we should have boundaries set to protect us.

There's a good book that gave me perpective called Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. You can order from christianbooks.com or from shop on www.newlife.com. I paid around $13 and some chnage I think for it.

Psalm 62:6 (NIV
He only is my Rock and my Salvation; He is my Defense and my Fortress, I shall not be moved.

Romans 1:12
that is, that you and I may be mutually encouraged by each other's faith.
Be blessed and Expect Success!

Emotional Needs :: RE: Remarriage after Divorce? Is it right?

Author: ladyt
Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 7:07 am (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 7

You're welcome.

Elligirl is correct in listening to what God says, so this is why I wanted you to have scriptures. We read the newspaper and it is what it is. The Bible is read and it is what it is.

I allowed my faith to be weakened by my trial temporarily and it was the Word of God that got me back on track but he used people from this blog who shared scripture with me beginning with SAM. Thanks SAM!

I really dislike typing on here due to the fear of being judged on how others interpret what I say. Just know I love people and I love the Lord.

If I have offended anyone, please forgive me as it is not what I set out to do. Sometimes the truth hurts. But we cannot always hear what we like and not want to hear what we don't like. My best friend tells me like it is, she does not sugar coat anything and that�s why I love her so much. She's like a mom to me. My mother died when I was 10 and had a mean stepmom later in my teen years.

There are two types of trials: 1) self-imposed and 2) God allowed. I can get through the self-imposed ones as I know what I did for that trial to occur but he God allowed ones are the heavy ones as I cannot see why he allowed but I�ve decided to trust him completely through this one and I have so much more peace than I did a week ago. God�s word changes lives and people�s hearts, if they seek it.

I found out yesterday that I have a tumor in my one remaining ovary and I have to decide when to have the surgery. Now is not a good time with teen and job issues, so I have asked God to tell me when to have this surgery. My specialist says it�s not urgent but I need to get it done.

So pray that I accept wisdom on this issue.

Raising Children and Teenagers :: RE: drug addicted teen

Author: ineedjesus
Subject: resecured
Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 6:17 am (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 8

thank you so much. I feel the love and I will definately keep in touch. Thank you so much.

Raising Children and Teenagers :: RE: drug addicted teen

Author: resecured
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 9:04 pm (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 8

(((((ineedjesus)))))

Sending hugs your way!! I'm keeping your family, most especially your son, in prayer. I pray all will go well for his first counseling and treatment appt. Let us know how he's doing. Take care of yourself too.

-RJ-

Infidelity :: RE: Airforce wife of porn addict

Author: resecured
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 8:48 pm (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 3

Welcome to Growthtrac! As you will find, several of us on here understand completely. Feeling helpless, know what that feels like. Husbands just don't understand how it affects us. My husband felt that it was just a private matter. No big deal. Trouble was it advanced into something more. It's ok to share here. You will receive nothing but kindness, understanding, and biblical truth here. These brothers and sisters are amazing in their reaching out to help and pray. It is so freeing to put a thought out there and get opinions from people who care, who know. Believe me, when I say you are not alone in this.

-RJ-

Infidelity :: RE: Airforce wife of porn addict

Author: fishi
Subject: Airforce wife of porn addict
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 5:55 pm (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 3

Dear USAWife, I know that your heart is heavy. Certainly the indoctrination of the military, and [possible deployment makes your situation complex.

My husband travels extensively, for his job, not the same as deployment, but gone alot, regardless. If you wish to email me, we can email back and forth or talk on the phone, which ever works better for you. My husband's addiction to porn progressed to almost every level of sexual perversion you can imagine.

Does your husband have an open heart regarding this issue?

Infidelity :: RE: Can open - beans spilled!

Author: fishi
Subject: Can open - beans spilled!
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 5:48 pm (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 11

(((FHJ))) Stay strong, my friend.

1 John 3:18 Let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.

I will pray that God blesses you and your marriage with fervent love and affections.

Emotional Needs :: RE: Remarriage after Divorce? Is it right?

Author: Jane_Doe
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 11:55 am (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 7

Elligirl,

Not just now in the present, but I've had marriage problems before. My husband and I were seperated earlier on in our marriage for six months. I've looked up verses on marriage /divorce in the past and I already had my own opinions based from what I read.

Because soo many people don't "agree" because marriage/divorce/remarriage is an "iffy" subject with a lot of people. So many people marry and divorce and remarry these days that it's become a "common thing",But I've had my own thoughts for quite sometime. Now, that I'm having marriage problems again, and while talking to a friend at work thats also just went through a divorce, we've been talking about this issue. I've shared with him how I feel, and told him that perhaps there are other verses that I hadn't yet found that may provide another alternative or justification, but based on what I've found I told him my thoughts on how I interpret things and I pretty well believe the same as the link that Ladyt, posted.

I think it's a very good wealth of information. You should check it out, the Bible verses are included with the "points". Sure every one can interpret things differently, but I feel that whoever wrote this piece on this topic, I feel pretty confident in thier explanations. They were the ones I myself shared, so it just confirms for me my own interpretations.

I really thought it was a great link, I bookmarked it so I'd have it in the future.

Thanks again Ladyt.

Raising Children and Teenagers :: RE: drug addicted teen

Author: ineedjesus
Subject: My teen
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 11:19 am (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 8

I wish I could send him to a treatment program, but they are way beyond my means. I have contacted our local Interface program, I'm just waiting for a call back. I appreciate all the prayers. More prayer more power!! Thanks you guys.

Raising Children and Teenagers :: RE: drug addicted teen

Author: rdsmith3
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 10:49 am (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 8

I will pray for you and your son. I know it is difficult. I had to put my own teenage son into the hospital and then into a residential program for a year.

God will give you the strength to get through this.
_________________
May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Romans 15:5-6

Emotional Needs :: RE: Remarriage after Divorce? Is it right?

Author: Elligirl
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 10:33 am (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 7

Jane,

Do not listen to what people tell you only listen to God.
Mans ways are not Gods ways.

Emotional Needs :: RE: Marriage of God?!

Author: Elligirl
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 10:29 am (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 93

Thank you ladyt.
I was told she could not help me because I told her God did not want me to give up on my marriage. She said unless I was willing to move on and make a new life without my husband she could not help. We spoke in depth about how I felt God had called me to stand, she took the get out and find someone else route.
I am fine today and was last night God has given me peace.
My husband called me this morning at 3:30 to tell me he was going to get her once again.

Emotional Needs :: RE: Remarriage after Divorce? Is it right?

Author: Jane_Doe
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 8:59 am (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 7

Thank you. I read through all this and it pretty much says what my feelings are on the matter.

I've had this argument with alot of my family who will agree with me that it says that ,but then say "But I don't think God would want you to be alone".
But I say, God made the rules....

I did get slightly confused toward the bottom when it got into the Fornicator having rights and all that. But I think I get it...

But again Thanks! I'm going to book mark that page and keep it for reference. I'm also going to share it with my divorced friend at work thats had all the same questions that I do, and I'm going to share it with my family that debates me on this. lol Thanks!

Raising Children and Teenagers :: RE: drug addicted teen

Author: ineedjesus
Subject: drug addicted teen
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 8:23 am (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 8

Thank you all for your response. Believe me it helps!! My son's first counseling appointment is this friday morning and his first appointment for treatment is this Saturday. I am waiting for the paper work to go through for a school that is fitted just for his "needs". I will look into some of your suggestions and let you know how it worked out. Please keep in touch it helps. Thanks all!!

Stuff :: RE: My nest is empty during the day...feeling lost

Author: Jane_Doe
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 8:20 am (GMT -6)
Topic Replies: 2

Hi

Well, I don't have experiance with this, I'm just just 27. From your comment, I take you do still have kids at home right?

What things do you like to do?

Would there be a hobby or something that you could get into?

You never know, if you're a christian this could be a time in your life that you could "make your own ministry". Even if your church says "no thanks" make your own ministry. You could spend time visiting with elderly, sick, do things for them to help them out when their shut in. You could make a card ministry, where you send uplifting cards to those sick, and been out of church for a while. You could volunteer at some organization, I'm sure somewhere there is somebody or some organization that needs you. If there is a "Big Brothers , Big Sisters" organization, volunteer and help touch other kids that have no one. If there was a craft that you liked, quilting, knitting or any craft at that matter, if there was something you liked making, make them and turn it into a ministry and bless those that are sick or down. I know here where I live there is a Rape Crisis place that you can volunteer for. You go and takes some classes on how to "be there for them", and you stay on call or whatever so that when something happens you can go to the hospitals or where ever to meet them, just to be there to help them. That was something I wanted to do myself, but the place where the classes was taken was too far a drive, or I think I might have really have liked doing something like that.

Just a few ideas,

Good luck