Prenumptial Agreements - What does the Bible Say?

Espo · Newbie Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 1 Location: Texas

Can you give some insight on Prenumptial Agreements? Is the word even found in the bible? I know that the bible states that when a couple marries, they become one flesh. I'm concerned that if I marry this man and devote the rest of my life to him that I won't be taken care of when he dies. He was in a very bad divorce 6 years ago where he lost half of his 401K and says everything will be left to his daughter. He also says that if he dies, I have to sell the home and half of it goes to his daughter. Doesn't the bible state that as the man of the house he is to provide and take care of his family which means his wife AND his daughter? When I first met him, he wasn't even a Christian but I have helped guide him to knowing Christ and together we attend Lakewood Church. He's even reading the bible now and has a great passion for Paul. I'm very in love with this man and lost at how to pray about this situation. We both have seen ways that God has brought and kept us together over the last 3 years and I'm determined to have a loving Christian marriage but I want to know he loves me enough to care about what happens to me, not just his daughter who is only 10 right now. I would be greatful for any advice you could give! God Bless!

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 1846 Location: Chicago

I am not aware of anything in the Bible about pre-nup agreements.
Consider both of you speaking with your pastor about this, or an elder of the church. Or consider seeing a Christian attorney. I think either one of these would give you Godly wisdom on this.

Also, please consider pre-marital counseling either with a license professional or a mentor couple. There is a great book out there to pick up called the Smart Step Family by Ron Deal. This is a must read.
Every couple my husband and I have mentored who one or both have had a previous marriage have all required intense counseling. This also means family counseling - with his daughter.

This time will give you great insight into what all of your expectations for this new marriage will be like. Also, the issues you have posted here have a huge potential for setting your marriage up for failure - not success.

A pre-nup agreement - I would not sign one. A detailed will is a very good idea which stipulates all of the items your husband has concerns about. Negotiation is the key and make sure you are fully aware of what the will says.

webacus · Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 12:13 pm Post subject:

I don't think the bible addresses those questions
specifically, nor am I an attorney (disclaimer) Smile

In my non-legal-professional opinion, I believe the "norm"
is for 100% of the estate to transfer to the surviving spouse.

Then when that spouse dies, the estate is distributed per the will (to children, church, etc.)

I understand your concern.

If my wife were to die, I wouldn't want half of my property
distributed to my child(ren)!

--Have you expressed your concerns to your husband?

--Do you presently have a will? If not, perhaps a good
Christian estate planning attorney will set him straight.

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