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guyton_3
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Please pray for me and my family, I have four kids from a prior marraige, ( it was a "scriptural" divorce ) and have been remarried for two years. Here is the hurdle, he is not familiar with kids and often says and does things that are degrading or confusing for them. He is the same way with me, he says whatever he thinks wihtout thinking first. He can be very hurtful. To complicate it I am an adult survivor of childhood abuse, PRAISE GOD he saved me for a purpose. This has all deteriorated my marriage to the final threads. I love my husband and my kids. I know the BIBLE says I can not divorce him , so I stay hopeing that my kids will be alright.
I am sorry to unload but I need prayers and christian counsel.
Thank you,
christie ??? ??? |
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| Posted: Thu May 23, 2002 7:56 pm Post subject: |
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Welcome
There are many kind hearts here, and a few with similar problems. As you will see if you read some of the posted threads.
Our prayers for you start now!  |
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webacus
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Christie, welcome...
I have prayed for you and your family.
I'm glad you feel at home here. |
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SAM
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Our hearts and prayers are with you.
We pray you find peace and guidance during this time.
We ask our Lord to give you a clear understanding of his will and direction for you. |
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kelly
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Location: Long Island, NY
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Christie,
I am also divorced and re-married. The abuse was in my first marraige and thank God I was able to let him go and re-marry. I also have two children from a previous marraige (the abusive one). My question is, how abusive is he? How much damage is he doing to the kids? How old are the kids?
In my first marraige my husband would yell at me in front of the kids and when my daughter reached two, she started to mimic him. This was very damaging to her and me. She withdrew and was quite shy and "weepy" for about a year even after the divorce. Now, being in a stable, loving home, she has opened up, healed, and is as healthy (emotionally) as she can be.
God is ABLE and with alot of prayer, faith, and patience your husband can be given a softer heart. Pray every day for him, giving your hurt, frustration, and anger to God. The power behind the prayers of a spouse are very strong. If you don't already have it, try picking up "Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian.
:inlove: Kelly. |
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Janine
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Hi, Christie!
It's true that there are very narrow scriptural guidelines for divorce. But, you get nowhere sitting back and taking everyone else's word for exactly what the Bible has in it on the subject of divorce.
If you don't normally study out of the KJV, you can get concordances now keyed to NIV and NKJV. Or, you can use a program like the one at <www.studylight.org> to look up words. Look up every verse you can find on divorce, covenants (& breaking them), marriage, husband's and wife's "obligations", etc., and study 'em all out for yourself, in context, with an emphasis on the New Testament. It never hurts to know just where you stand.
Is your current husband a Christian, or does he at least claim to be, and does he have a church family? If he's causing damage to your home atmosphere, there may be something your elders or a church counselor can do with him.
Whether or not he knows the Lord, you are put in a tough position. Only you can tell if the way he's acting can be balanced and the impact lessened by a Christian mom in the home.
If he gets into anything you could call actual abuse (and it doesn't have to get physical to be abuse), you need to re-evaluate staying there and keeping the kids there.
God hates divorce, and the ideal He wants for us does not include even a scriptural divorce. Also, Paul urges a Christian spouse to stay if the unChristian one will... BUT!... you have an obligation to the kids, as they are a gift to you from God.
You may not have grounds for an "approved" divorce, but no law inside the Bible or out says you and the young ones must sit still & stay there being abused.
So, you really need to study and pray-pray-pray, and get godly advice from people who have the "fruit" on the tree that you want to have one day.
Assuming you & the kids aren't in actual danger, and assuming y'all aren't becoming warped, cringing little people from lots of verbal abuse, it may be that the Lord has allowed you to go thru this dark time to lead your husband into the light. |
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