New to this website - Blessed

Blessed3x · Posted: Sun Jun 02, 2002 8:20 pm Post subject:

Hello. My name is Candice and I am new to this site. I have been married to my husband for the past five years and we have two daughters. I feel very blessed to be married to a man of God. I look forward to getting to know you all.

God bless you and your marriages. :inlove:

kelly · Posted: Mon Jun 03, 2002 6:46 am Post subject:

Hi Candice! Welcome! How old are your kids?

Very Happy

Blessed3x · Posted: Mon Jun 03, 2002 8:36 am Post subject:

Lauren will be 8 in July and Andrea is 3 1/2. They keep me busy to say the very least.

Do you have children as well?

Candice

kelly · Posted: Mon Jun 03, 2002 10:14 am Post subject:

Yup, I have kids. Emmie is 4, DJ is 2 and 1/2, Zachary is 11 months, and we are expecting another in September! I know what it is like to be busy! Very Happy

How did you find this site? From where about are you from? This is a great board, have you gotten a chance to rad up on the posts? Some pretty good discussions come up! I think everybody has learned a thing or two along the way! :p

danielle · Full Member Joined: 19 Apr 2002 Posts: 232

Hi Candice,

Welcome! How old are you?

I'm happy to hear you are married to a man of God. What qualities about him do you admire the most, and what is the best thing about your marriage?

Blessed3x · Posted: Tue Jun 04, 2002 9:40 am Post subject:

Hello Danielle:

I would say that one thing that I admire about him the most is his love for the Lord. The best thing about our marriage is that even though being married a lot of work, we have alot of fun together that more than outweighs any issues we have ever encountered.

Candice Smile

danielle · Full Member Joined: 19 Apr 2002 Posts: 232

Hi again Candice,

Has his love for the Lord been evident from the very beginning of the relationship or did it take time to mature into what it is?

(I like to inquire about other Christian's marriages, since I'll be heading down that road myself soon too). Wink

webacus · Posted: Tue Jun 04, 2002 10:51 am Post subject:

Candice, WELCOME! Very Happy

kelly · Posted: Tue Jun 04, 2002 11:40 am Post subject:

Danielle, can I answer your question as well?

I know you are facing marraige soon and have alot of questions. Good for you. Marraige is forever and even when it is with somebody you love dearly, there are definately tough times!

My husband did have a love for the Lord from the beginning, but definately did not have any commitment, fire, or priorities towards Him. The thing is, he knew better. He did admit many times that he had to get his act together b/c he knew what was expected from him and he did want to please God and do the right thing. He is still working on it, as we all are. He has come very far from where he was when I first met him.

I think the important thing is how your boyfriend feels about the Lord. If he knows what is expected of him, and he does have a love for the Lord, the rest should come (especially with your help and prayers). If he is confused right now, or doesn't understand what he should be doing, then there is always the opportunity for God to change him, but it may be more difficult. It is easier to become and do what you already know and feel in your heart. It is much more of a challenge to change into something you are not familiar with. Does that make sense? It is all in the heart condition. Jason knew what he should be doing and he wanted to be doing it. Now he is. We are all unfinished products, but at least we can do our best along the way and my husband is b/c he has the right heart condition.

danielle · Full Member Joined: 19 Apr 2002 Posts: 232

Hi Kelly,
Thanks for sharing your answer. (Anyone is welcome to give feedback Very Happy

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Yes, I definitely can agree & understand what you are saying. That was really encouraging to hear. My bf does know the Lord, but Jesus is not the center of his life right now and he is in the midst of doing some soul-searching to see if he wants to make him the center. He realizes he has alot of selfish behaviors he would like to diminish in order to mature before marriage too. He also knows what is expected of him as a Christian husband as well since we have been discussing this, are going to pre-pre marital counseling right now, and we went to a marriage seminar earlier this year too.

What he keeps telling me is that he is the type of person who needs to have a goal which helps him to focus. He works well under pressure, and feels that once we make a engagement commitment this will enable him to work on becoming what he needs to become because he has a goal (marriage) that he is working towards. With us being in limbo, it has been hard for him to nail down some things and make certain decisions about his life. I've been keeping him in prayer since I have "The Power of a Praying Wife" book, and continue to stress that his personal relationship with Christ & the desire to grow needs to be a sincere desire of HIS heart, and not just doing it for the relationship. He says he's doing it for both.

I'm definitely on fire for God right now in my life eventhough he isn't, but I just deeply desire to have a Christ-centered relationship where we both share a love for each other out of our love for Christ, and we both have a deep love for God who has 1st place in each of our lives. Wink

Blessed3x · Posted: Tue Jun 04, 2002 3:35 pm Post subject:

For me, it was evident from the time even before he and I began to court. We fellowshipped with the same group of people and from conversations, I was able to discern his character etc.

Once we began our courtship, it only grew. We talked alot on the phone every change we got. I can't tell you the many nights that we fell asleep with the phones to our ears Smile

My dh is very well versed in the Word of God and his conversation was always seasoned accordingly. Even if we would never gotten married, I would still enjoy his upright conversations. I hope this helps and CONGRATULATIONS!!

Candice

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 2170 Location: Chicago

Hi Candice, glad to have you with us!

GIC · Full Member Joined: 02 Mar 2001 Posts: 102 Location: IL.

Candice, Welcome, we are glad to have you with us. I have been married 15 years, with 2 kids. I am more in love with my husband today than I was in the beginning. Looking forward to your posts. Growing in Christ

Janine · Posted: Thu Jun 06, 2002 6:53 am Post subject:

You cannot trust a man to head your house & raise your kids who will not put God first, even over you.

Given the permanence and stability of the man being godly, a marriage can flourish & weather just about anything.

Welcome, dear! May the Lord's angels watch over you! Smile

danielle · Full Member Joined: 19 Apr 2002 Posts: 232

Hi Janine:
It's interesting that you said that, I agree. Question though, I've heard alot of Christian women say that they wished they would've waited to marry their husband until they were "more mature in Christ."

Do you think that some men just may not be ready to instantly be the "head" after marrying? And that perhaps it might take them a little while (say right after you start a family)? Or should they become the head right after tying the knot?

Just curious....

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