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Elligirl
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Thank you so much for your prayers. This is a seemingly endless battle.
Please pray that it will be over with soon and God will be the victor. I don't see how I can keep on without breaking. I know God is able. Please pray |
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rdsmith3
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praying for you
that God will strengthen and comfort you; that He will grant you His peace.
that God will change your husband's heart, so he will be the husband that God wants him to be, to the wife that God gave him |
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Elligirl
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 9:51 am Post subject: |
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secured
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(((((((((Elligirl)))))))))
Hugs and comfort. I pray that God will indeed give you strength and patience. Please find some comfort in knowing that there are several of us praying for you. RJ |
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Elligirl
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| Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 8:19 am Post subject: |
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| I thank each and everyone of you for your prayers. I believe at times they are the only thing that has kept me going. Please continue to pray. |
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Elligirl
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Some days things seem better, some days they seem worse. Today is a worse day. I was putting batteries in my alarm clock last night when my husband came in and accused me of going through his cell phone to see if this other woman had called. I was very upset by this and told him so. The truth is that the cell phone is in my name and I pay the bill on it. I could have all the numbers she calls from blocked but that would not solve the problem of her calling. He has to want to stop it himself or I could block forever and it would not help.
Please pray that God will touch his heart and show him what she is and turn his heart from her. I think he already knows in his heart but it has not made it to his brain yet. Pray that God will restore our marriage to be better than it has ever been, and my husband will never want to hear her voice or see her face again. I hurt so much but am trying to do as I feel God is leading me to do. Please pray that my faith will be multiplied and this ordeal will soon be over with God as the victor. Please pray |
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greenwidow
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| Elligirl wrote: | | accused me of going through his cell phone to see if this other woman had called. |
Even if you were, it is OK to ask for a little reassurance. "Honey, please believe me I was replacing the batteries in the clock. If I had been looking for her number I would have told you that. It would be incredibly loving action of you to recognize my need for reassurance and freely offer the call log to me."
You are an INCREDIBLY patient woman.
God Bless |
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greenwidow
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| Elligirl wrote: | | accused me of going through his cell phone to see if this other woman had called. |
Even if you were, it is OK to ask for a little reassurance. "Honey, please believe me I was replacing the batteries in the clock. If I had been looking for her number I would have told you that. It would be incredibly loving action of you to recognize my need for reassurance and freely offer the call log to me."
You are an INCREDIBLY patient woman.
God Bless |
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Elligirl
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:53 pm Post subject: |
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| I love my husband very much and feel this is a marriage God made. He requires alot of patience. Please pray that Satan will be bound and my husband will be loosed from the bonds Satan and this woman has him in and God will surround us with his love and protection and our restored marriage will be better than ever. Please pray |
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Elligirl
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| When I posted yesterday I made the statement that my husband requires alot of patience. That was an understatement. Last night he told me this other woman was wanting to move back in with him. I told him to go but when he did there was no coming back. At which point he wanted to know if he and I never saw each other how we would get the bills paid. We had separated the bills the first time he maved out of our home and into our other house with her. Since that time he lost his job spend all he had saved and when she left he came home. I got his job back for him but he had to start back without his rank so does not make enough money to pay all he owes. While they were together he ran up 2,000 dollars or more on a credit card. Now he exspects me to help him pay for them to live together. Please pray for me this would be funny if it did not hurt me so much. Any mental health providers out there that can tell me what is wrong with my husband. Please pray |
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greenwidow
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| Posted: Wed Feb 13, 2008 2:02 pm Post subject: Pay the Bills |
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Okay...the really evil side of me cropped up when I read your post. I think I would be tempted to tell him that you will meet with the both of them, once a week to settle bills...
After Sunday morning service, down at the church.
It is time to let go of the things. The house that he and his mistress are using needs to be sold, since you can not be expected to pay everything. She will need to house him, if she is sleeping with him.
Just my opinion...nothing Bible based here. |
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Elligirl
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| He will not allow the house to be sold and I can not do so without his signature. He had promised me before he came back that it would be sold when he did. But he is still unwilling to let go of her so he holds onto the house so they will have a place to be together. She can not supply a place to live herself and is on welfare. I told him if she is what he wants then he needs to tell her to get a job, he is a high maintinance man. She lives with whoever will take her in. Her, her sister, her brother and thier families were all living with a woman who had cancer. The woman died in December so they have been living with who ever would put them up for a few days. She has probably been ask to leave where she is and therefore wants to move back in with my husband. Yes they are truely trash. My husband told me the brother would take the pain patch off the woman with cancer, put it in his mouth and chew it to get the medication out then put it back on her. My husband is a very loving caring man, I know Satan has him bound for him to be willing to be around people like this. He does not see the bad in her only hears her saying she wants to change. I repeated that to her one day and she said she never wanted to change she liked who she was. Please pray for my husband that he will come to see her as she is. Please pray for me that I might not let God down through these trials. |
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Elligirl
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| Things are still the same around here. My husband was moving out over the weekend but she called to say it would be another week before she was back so he has ajusted his plans somewhat. She wants him to go ahead and go to the other house because she doesn't want him around me. She called last night to say they had put her in the hospital with her heart. i ask him if he was going to where she was and he said she just probably went into the hospital because she wanted drugs. It is sad that he knows this but is still willing to leave me for her time and time again. Every time according to him is the last. Please pray for me and my situation. I want closure to this so badly. I know most people think I am crazy to keep on but I truely believe God joined us together and God doesn't make any mistakes. Please pray that God will soon have all worked out and everything will be as it should be. |
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secured
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(((((Elligirl)))))
Your right when you say God does not make mistakes. We do though. I believe we do have a right to put boundaries up when the situation requires it. I've read on other posts that you can love a person but not their actions. It might be time to let him know that you are no longer going to tolerate his going back and forth. It may wake him up. It's easy when he knows that he has you to fall back on. It's time to take care of yourself. It might be time to start doing "Tough Love". God does not expect you to be a doormat. What he is doing is WRONG! I worry about you getting a STD. Take care of yourself! That is so important. I hope I have not overstepped my boundaries. I only write this because I can see you want to do what is right in God's eyes.
I will pray that God will show you what you need to do. I will pray that God will open your husband's eyes to what he is doing. Be strong. RJ |
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Elligirl
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Thank you so much for caring. And I thank you for your prayers also. When I found out about the affair and what kind of woman she was I went to the doctor and was tested for STD's. I had one but one I had never heard of before, only women get it and it comes from having multiple sexual partners at one time. My husband had carried it from her to me but did not get it himself. I was able to take care of it thru antibiotics. When I told my husband he did not believe it because that would have ment she was with him and other men at the same time.
Each time he has left I have told him not to come back unless it is over each time he has come back swearing that it is. Then she will start calling or he will call her.
Please pray that God will break the bondage that he is in and that he will not find peace or rest until he turns back to God.
Please pray |
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