Marriage Help - I need free help or advice

LostPrincess · Newbie Joined: 03 Jul 2002 Posts: 2

I need some advice or help, my husband and I have been together for 13 years (married 3 years) we have 2 children. We're basically high school sweethearts. We've had trouble in our relationship/marriage. We are currently seperated because we argue a lot. I know I love him and he loves me, but we can't get along :( . He has broken my trust in the past, and it has made me insecure and untrusting, plus we haven't been friends for awhile now. This may sound strange, but I trust that he's only separated from me because our troubled marriage, all I want is for him to be home. I'm very sensative and I cry at a drop of a hat, so this separation has been difficult. I love him very much, I guess I may be too clingy also, but I'm that way because I don't want to lose him. I pray to God that he will help my marriage, I just feel lost. We were baptized together last year, but the church we were baptized in has changed so much. New pastor, doesn't feel like a church family anymore-we just stop attending. If someone can help or give some good advice, e-mail me at oriental_princess806@yahoo.com or just reply to this post.
Thanks

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

Welcome to our little group here. I think you will find support more than advise, that is because one needs to know the both of you.

Where is he with God? Where are you with God? Where was God in your marriage?

You need to find a strong foundation. Find a church with a pastor and community which can offer you fellowship and a pastor who is a proper counselor.

webacus · Posted: Wed Jul 03, 2002 6:29 pm Post subject:

Welcome! Have you sought Christian counseling? That's the first place I would go.

Secondly, locating a new church might not be your highest priority right now, but I encourage you to look. Check this out: Church Search

Be selective. What you need is an authentic, biblically-functioning community.

Have you maintained any close, Christian relationships?
Do you have anyone you can talk to? A pastor?

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 2132 Location: Chicago

Welcome to GT Community.
I'm with the Webacus and Dave.
There is a lot going on in your lives - without outside help, you will have difficulty sorting through it. Also, of the biggest importance is integrating God into the middle of all of this.
He is the one in control and giving it all to Him is probably the hardest part.

Know, you are in our prayers. Let us know how things progress for you.

GIC · Full Member Joined: 02 Mar 2001 Posts: 102 Location: IL.

We are happy to have you, Lost Princess. Are you attending a church right now? This seems to be an important step for maintaining your relationship with Christ. Find a church where you feel safe. Pray and know that He is with you. Growing in Christ, Patty

LostPrincess · Newbie Joined: 03 Jul 2002 Posts: 2

Thanks for all the replies, I really appreciate it. My husband and I aren't walking as closely to God as we ought too. But we both believe in him, and I'm searching for a church as we speak. I know religion is important, and my children need to be able to experience it too. But since I am Baptist, do I have to stay being a Baptist. I want to really feel like my church is a second home to me, and Baptist's well, let's just say they keep to themselves. If any of you have thoughts, feel free to respond.
Thanks Smile

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

Grace · Full Member Joined: 24 May 2001 Posts: 90 Location: IL.

Dave is right, the discussion on changing churches is in the Stuff catagory. Go to Stuff, double click on it and find the discussion. It will be helpful. As long as your church is a Bible Based Church, you can go anywhere. I go to a non denominational church. I love it. Keep us posted. :p

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 2132 Location: Chicago

I think you will find if you talk to many of us on the board, that we all started at one type of church and have switched along the way.

We now attend a local Community Church, which is a bible teaching church. It is non-denominational.

Sometimes it means going to a new church for a little while,
listening to the messages for 3 or 4 weeks, then deciding if that is where you want to stay, or move on to another place.
It would be good to ask if they tape their messages.
That can give you a real flavor for what they have been teaching. Also, be very careful and allow the Spirit to work in you on the discernment part. If you hear something that doesn't sit right, doesn't sound biblical - then don't wash it away or overlook it. Usually that it the Spirit telling you to walk away.

Mysti · Newbie Joined: 30 Jul 2002 Posts: 8

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But since I am Baptist, do I have to stay being a Baptist.

Hey: There are many more Bapist church's out there beside straight Baptist. Try some New Life Bapist Church's, New Life Baptist, Just Hop around for awhile till you feel the spirit fill you. You will know it. Good Luck & God Bless your marriage.

Mysti

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