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Madam · Newbie Joined: 15 May 2006 Posts: 4

Hi. I stumbled accross this message board about two months ago. I was upset at the time and I just wanted to read happy stories of chirsitan marriages.

I need help. I was with this guy 2 years ago for about 7 months, but we were kinda courting for a bit before, and I fell for him big time. We were both Christians and he'd been at church for 6 years or something and me for 4. We went to two seperate churches and we'd been friends for about 2 years before I started to really like him. I'd been with someone else from my church but it didnt work out, and Bob (code name!) had always text me at special times in my life, everything started to fall into place when we got back in touch, and I told him that I liked him. we then started seeing each other and he asked me out on my baptism day, it was so romantic and he was lovely. Before long he'd moved to my church (he was unhappy at his own before we went out) we were convinced we were going to get married, he initally said it, and we started saving for it and planning. After 7 amazing months he broke up with me. It was because he had 'lost god' (it was really because he'd found a new group of friends who had bitched about me so much that he felt he had to dump me to be cool with them). Things never really stopped, we spent christmas together and new year and we were still best friends. Then I left church. He liked other people and so did I, but I always thoguht we'd get back together when we were older as this was what he told me.

So anyway, 2 years on and we still flirt, i stayed over at new year again, and we made a mistake at christmas, but we just cuddle all the time and occasionally kiss. I really believed that we were about to get back together. And then he broke my heart again by telling me he liked someone. Things were weird for a while and then straight back to flirty again. Today, I've found out who that girl is... and i'm hearbroken, shes not a christian and shes a lot prettier than me. I just feel like rubbish, I dunno what to do, i love him so much and ive tried to get over him but i just cant do it. I really am between two rocks, i just cant see a way out this time. please help me.

babycakes · Veteran Joined: 06 Mar 2006 Posts: 309 Location: In Prayer

Welcome. It's good to have someone else new here too.

I'm so sorry you're going through this pain in your relationship and feeling. It's a hard place to be. I only know for myself that I usually learn and grow from these painful times and that God never leaves me alone through them. He's always walking right beside me.

I can only share with you that I had to pray a great deal everyday for very specific things that God would bring to me in a husband. If your parents are followers of Christ, you might want to ask them if they will pray for the man you will marry some day.

It's hard to be rejected, but I feel if this really was the man God had planned for you, all the pieces would fall into place and there would be peace. Where there is chaos, God is not a part of it. Have you ever heard of the book, "Dating with Pure Passion", by Rob Eager? Its an awesome book and also, "Date or Soul Mate - How to know if someone is worth pursuing in two dates or less" by Neil Clark Warren.

It really appears this man has lost his way with God. If he was really seeking God's direction for someone he is dating or plans to marry, he would take this verse in scripture pretty seriously -

2 Corinthians 6:14

Do not be joined together with those who do not belong to Christ. How can that which is good get along with that which is bad? How can light be in the same place with darkness?

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