How to make hubby feel special?

CMcC · Full Member Joined: 23 Mar 2006 Posts: 53

Seven years ago my husband and I became parents for the first time. Since then, my husband feels left out....at the bottom of my "to take care of" list. Rolling Eyes

We now have 3 kids, and it's really getting old hearing how everyone else (including pets) are a higher priority than himself. How do I make hubby feel special and wanted? I'm a stay-at-home mom and he works all day. So when we get a chance to relax, our only together time we usually find ourselves infront of the tv. I don't like to watch tv for more than an hour at a time, so many nights I go do something by myself (computer, painting, etc) How do I express to him that he is loved...and he IS higher than the pets on the "to take care of" list? We've tried to get more involved with each other, but we don't have alot of common interest.... Any suggestions?

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 1946 Location: Chicago

Here's a great article on Growthtrac - http://www.growthtrac.com/artman/publish/article_90.php

It's important for the two of you to get out of the house alone without the kids. What about calling his boss and planning a kidnap from work? Get a trusted friend or family member to watch the kids for the afternoon and early evening? Plan an afternoon/evening doing something he loves one week. Then two weeks later plan something you love to do. Plan a picnic and take his favorite dessert with you. It's remembering the details of what he loves. He's asking you for attention and you probably have no energy left over at the end of the day to give it to him.

Date nights need to be put on the calendar no less than two nights per month. Nothing and I mean nothing interferes with them unless it is a sick child. It's not time to go out with other couples or a family member or to a family birthday party. It's just for the two of you and the dates are cast in stone on the calendar.

My hubby just likes couch time with me to talk (yes talk) and to watch his favorite show - 24. I've come to like it too!

How about taking a bubble bath or shower together? You rub my back and I'll rub yours? Order out a pizza with some bubbling cider and candlelight after the kids have gone to bed and lock the door.

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