How did you know? - Knowing your spouse was from God

danielle · Full Member Joined: 19 Apr 2002 Posts: 232

Please share why you feel your wife or husband is a blessing in your life and how you knew you were meant to marry.

kelly · Posted: Tue Jun 04, 2002 6:52 am Post subject:

I love to talk about my love for my husband! :inlove:

I knew Jason was meant for me for two big reasons. One is that I felt it way down deep. So deep that I couldn't even make sense of it! I have had many boyfriends (and even a previous husband) in the past and was never as attracted to anyone the way I was for him. I felt drawn to him. I believe it was God putting in me eyes and a heart for him.

The second reason is that Jason was very much out in the world when I met him (as was I). He wasn't thinking marraige or kids. He had any girl he wanted, he did anything he wanted. Commitment and responsibility wasn't on his list of priorities (neither was God). After only knowing each other for a short while, we both came back to God. Jason instantly took on the role of father to my two young kids and he started taking responsibility for my bills as I was falling dangerously behind. It's as if he was instantly the man that he was supposed to be, the man God wanted him to be. He grew up. He matured. His priorities changed. His eyes opened. He grew closer to God after a time of seperation from Him. I also re-arranged my priorities, my life, to center around God, Jason, and my kids when it had been previously been centered around the world. These changed came about very quickly and felt so good! He says he felt the Holy Spirit tell him I was the woman he was going to marry as soon as he saw me (which is amazing b/c I was toting two kids and he was toting a girlfriend!). This scared him, but he also couldn't fight the strong attraction he felt for me and soon didn't even want to try! :inlove:

Now we have a very strong, close, open, Godly marraige and we know God has plans for us. If there are any doubts in your head about whether or not to marry the man/woman you are with, I say wait. When it is thr right person and time I believe God will let you know in a way that you feel it even if you don't want to! The Holy Spirit dwelling in you will tell you'r heart, your head. :inlove:

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

Janine · Posted: Thu Jun 06, 2002 6:30 am Post subject:

I didn't realize he was the one for a long time. My mother picked him out for me. That probably wasn't because she'd searched the world over & found me my true love... it was more that he was the one she could stomach among all my objectionable male friends.

I wasn't a Christian then, & he'd converted as a child but was walking pretty far from God.

I did sincerely ask God to show me/make obvious what I needed to know, to know Him. Not long after that my husband-to-be came into my life. It was through him I found the Lord. So, I guess God really found him for me.

But, there was no blinding obvious flash of "Hoo boy, he's the one!"

danielle · Full Member Joined: 19 Apr 2002 Posts: 232

Hi Janine:
Your scenario sounds a little similar to my bf in that he also converted as a teen, but strayed away from God for quite a few years. He is now growing closer to God though.

Tell me, when was it that your husband changed his ways to have a closer walk w/ the Lord?

Dee · Newbie Joined: 05 Jun 2002 Posts: 7

I was married and divorced and during the time dating my first husband, I had a lot of doubts but felt that there was just something wrong with me. You have to understand that when you come from an abusive home, you have no idea what normal is. Normal to us was violence. But when my first husband became violent, I made the choice with God's help to get out.

With my current husband, I was so afraid when i started dating. Afraid of trusting myself, my judgment. Lots of prayer and God just laying it on the line to have me tell my husband that this is what I believe and this is what I want from a marriage. Basically if it doesn't fit his idea of marriage than walk away now. But my husband was a Christian and it worked out for us.

I knew he was the man for me when I felt secure that he wasn't looking for anyone else. When I felt like I wouldn't be able to live on if anything would happen to him. When I would get extremely defensive of him if another said anything that sounded negative to me. And when I couldn't go one day without being with him, he was my best friend, my confidant. At times I didn't know where he ended and I began.

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