Free Will - My Marriage: God's will or my will

MissySC · Newbie Joined: 02 Mar 2003 Posts: 3 Location: SC

Hey Everyone! I am sincerely grateful I was led here! I love your community! And this topic is such an open wound for me! Although hubby and I are born again NOW, we walked in the same shoes you are walking in Jyntle. For 8 years, I stood beside an unfaithful husband. He walked out on me for the ump-teenth time and finally I was broken. I had lived it for the very last time. I offered him no more place in my life. I began to rebuild my worth, and my life.

I won't go in to details but it sounds soooo familiar to your story I'm afraid Sad

What I didn't know at the time (we were not christians) was that God was moving in both of our lives! We would not be where we are today without His grace!

Today my husband is a different man. And his heart belongs to the Lord! He is a wonderful man, father, and husband. I said all of that to say this to Jyntle.....You never know what God has in store for him. Offer him, you, your precious little one, your marriage...to the Lord. Once you do that though, you can no longer interfere and try to help God out Smile

My heart goes out to you. You definately will be prayed for love.

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 2047 Location: Chicago

My heart and prayers go out to you. Such a difficult time, but I believe God has now opened your eyes and has given you the discernment you need to see the lies.

The Lee Stroebel book is an excellent one! We cannot be unequally yoked in marriage and expect it to survive. It is obvious your husband has no desire to change his patterns, which means you will need to change yours.

As much as God hates divorce, I do not believe He would want you to be married to someone who is unfaithful.

Janine · Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2003 9:22 pm Post subject:

He wanted Hosea to be married to someone who was unfaithful.

He Himself continually received back into his arms His unfaithful "wife" Israel.

But, bearing those things in mind, I am the last one to say you are in any way obliged to take back into your heart a man who makes a "revolving door" out of your bedroom door. I cannot see how God would have you subject yourself to the pain, not to mention the probability of deadly infection if things go on like they have.

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 2047 Location: Chicago

I agree there are times when the Lord has called someone to stay with an unfaithful spouse, but we are also talking about a spouse who is not a believer in this case as well. There is the risk of much more in the way of serious diseases too.
His actions show no remorse or desire to end this other relationship, that's obvious. He has made his choice and it is not his wife and child, it is the other woman.

Wynne · Full Member Joined: 03 Dec 2002 Posts: 109 Location: USA

Yes, indeed.

There are times one would wish for a cut-and-dried, formulaic answer.

Unfortunately, the 'formulaic' usually turns into the 'Pharisaic'. Sad

Jyntle · Newbie Joined: 17 Feb 2003 Posts: 5

MissySC, I am glad you were led to this community. While this is a situation that I would not want anyone to bear, it was comforting to hear your testimony. I am glad that God delivered you, your husband and your marriage - to God be the glory! I know that the Lord is working in my life and I am learning to not fear, but rather trust in Him. SAM, yes; though it was and is difficult, I know that I must practice discernment. Previously, I did not know how to do that. I do believe I am doing the right thing. Janine, Wynne - I appreiciate your comments. What you all have said has just really ministered to me. I continually pray and ask God to guide me in my decision and in all that I do. Thank you all for your prayers.

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