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This was the first topic on the list so I'm going to start a discussion.
In my household my husband has set up this division of roles: He's the CEO, I'm the COO...=)
It may sound bad, but actually it's quite biblical (I think). My goal is to be a Proverbs 31:10-31 woman. All the way. I believe I have creative ideas locked up in me that God wants to get out. I believe that if the mandate is set in the Word of God then I can achieve that mandate with God's help. So I take care of the kids (stay-a-home-Mom...until they don't need me to stay at home) and the house. At times my flesh wants to rebel and say, "Why don't you do this or that?!" When my husband comes home usually he plays with his daughter (1yr.) and watches t.v. (he says it helps him unwind). We have our time together after she goes to sleep...some nights (we're working on that), but my flesh wants to say get up off that couch and help me!!!....but really, that's not the way or attitude God wants me to be or have. I feel convicted in my heart that my husbands delegation of jobs is correct for us. If I spend time with God and follow His leading I actually end up taking care of everything that my husband would want me to take care of. I feel in my spirit that I can do all things through Christ which strengthenth me (Phil. 4:13)...
His job is to oversee, mainly, the work in the home, and he does. He also pitches in quite often and doesn't have to have his dinner ready for him when he walks in the door (thank God). In our household, God has been knitting us together so that my husband can be the final authority and me, submissive to his rule. That glorifies God so much and satan likes to try to get in and steal whatever he can of God's glory and try to get me to be a Jezebel and try to rule the place...but that's really not my place. I've found that the best place for me is to stay submissive even when he's wrong. How can God correct and change him if I'm out of order too? It also keeps the peace in my house for me to be submissive...(I also thank God that he's made me an intercessor and answers my prayers for my husband almost immediately...which doesn't always mean he changes him =)....)
Anyway, tha's how it is in my household and it works for us. |
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Wynne
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Joined: 03 Dec 2002
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One benefit of the male headship in the Christian home is that the wife is not the one who bears ultimate responsibility when the husband's plans do not succeed.
(No, Wynne does not say that we may leap about chanting "I told you so!" when he fails! :laugh:)
Rather, consider this: In what other venue of life may I express my opinions freely when I see problems ahead, receiving attentive agreement from my wise husband if I am correct, and also receiving the quite human satisfaction of being proved right when he did not agree with me?
Or, even better, praise to God, are the times when I see sure doom on the horizon, and Our Blessed Lord turns it all aright for us anyway! (Perhaps because a very stubborn old grey-haired female held her peace and obeyed His plan?) |
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tanza
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I've always enjoyed studying other people... you know, the fly on the wall syndrome! : :
My hubby and I have only been married for 3 years... so we're still new at the whole "how to have an extrodinary marraige" thing. First of all, I have to give my hubby a little adoration... besides being my very best friend in the world, he is very quick to help whenever I'm feeling overwhelmed, he has no expectations of the house being sparkling clean all the time or meals on the table (although he does enjoy when he comes home to a peaceful enviroment) and he is an exceptional daddy!
As for my ideas of what my role in our family is... the couple that we choose to give us pre-marital counselling gave us some advice that still echos in this wee lil' head...
wife-- to be his helpmeet... which expounded upon means helping him to become the man God dreams him to be. I find when I filter everything through that thought, alot of what I emphasize at home changes!
hubby-- to love the wife passionately, to build her confidence in the woman God intends her to be.
Jonathan and I are young, and new at this, but we are trying to build an exceptional marraige. Anyway, I know my thoughts are kind of scatterbrained... but I thought I'd share anyway. |
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Janine
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| Posted: Sat Feb 15, 2003 11:42 pm Post subject: |
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| If that's the product of a scattered brain, I'll be blown away when you post something on a good day! |
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tanza
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| Posted: Tue Feb 18, 2003 10:20 am Post subject: |
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| okay... can we say blushing here! :: |
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