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snuffy2
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Joined: 21 Jan 2003
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Hi out there
I've been sole searching and gone in a complete circle. I've been married for 15yrs and not real content now. The word happy is what you make it I think. I had to leave work for a 3 month's due to stress which has built up in this marriage. Didn't get much solved but rested. I've been seeing a psychiatrist and now I feel I'm not doing things right. She wants me to continue to go to Alnon meetings and I'm not sure if this is healthy for me. Everything she says is right butI don't want to start a rumble. He's stop drinking because 1. I'm going to see someone and he knows this is about him.
All I've been thinking about is how to get back to work and not land up in the same boat as before (stressed out) I do everything from clean house, work, play with our child to mowing lawns and taking the garbage out. (Compulsive maybe)
He has no ambition and I'm tired. I'm hiring someone to come in after school when I go back to work to help me and my sanity. I let all my friends go over the year and now I feel very unattached when I need to talk the most.  |
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webacus
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Joined: 02 Mar 2001
Posts: 612
Location: Behind you.
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Hi snuffy.. and welcome.
Please clarify: are you the husband? Are there children? |
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Wynne
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Joined: 03 Dec 2002
Posts: 109
Location: USA
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Welcome, dear! Please tell us more, if you will.
If I understand your post, you are right to receive good counseling.
You are also right to hire help in the home, if you can afford it, if you must return to work outside of your home. The only other alternative would be to accept a lower standard of cleanliness and order in your home. Perhaps you ought to do that. Please ask a trusted friend's advice regarding whether or not you are being overly fastidious and stressing yourself into an early grave over housekeeping. My clean house and my neighbor's dirty house will both burn up with "fervent heat" if the end comes today!
Do I also understand that your husband has stopped drinking? This is a good thing, even if he has stopped for lesser reasons than the good ones Al-Anon would teach you. |
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