Blended Families - Step-Families

chelle35 · Posted: Thu Mar 28, 2002 6:34 am Post subject:

Just to get to know anyone....

Anyone else have a blended family. I have been married for the second time for 3 1/2 years. I have two sons from my first marriage and just wondered if anyone out there is in a similiar situation?

Would love to talk with other people who have blended families.

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 1858 Location: Chicago

Glad to see you have joined us. I know there are some people on the board who are from a blended family, so hopefully they will see your post soon. I'm not, since I have been married for 25 years to the same great guy.
My husband and I are certfied marriage mentors, so we often work with people who are getting married and will be blending their families. Maybe I can still talk with you about some things if no one else joins us.

kelly · Posted: Thu Mar 28, 2002 11:43 am Post subject:

Hi Michelle, and welcome!

I am in a blended family...I was previously married and divorced after three years b/c of abuse. I had two kids with him, Emmie (4) and DJ (2). I re-married the following year to an awesome man, Jason. He took Emmie and DJ on better than I've ever seen "step"parents take before...Shortly after being married we had a son (8months) and am now expecting again. Jason is in the process of trying to legally adopt Emmie and DJ...ex signed over his rights...

In our family the words "step" and "half" are never used. Jason never tells people Emmie and DJ aren't his. They call him "daddy" and have almost since day one (Emmie was 2 then and DJ only a few months).

The Lord blessed me with this man and our family is thriving under God's annointing!

Hope your family is doing well...post again soon! :inlove:

chelle35 · Posted: Fri Mar 29, 2002 7:38 am Post subject:

Hey Sam and Kelly:

Yeah, I too, got married again about a year after my last marriage. My first marriage was abusive also. This time around, I prayed that God would send someone who I could trust, treat me and my boys respectfully, and who loves God. He did bless me tremendously. My husband now is a wonderful, hardworking, trustworthy man. He loves the Lord as well, however, his walk is not completely where it should be, but I believe that God is working on him. Thanks for the warm welcome and looking forward to post often.

kelly · Posted: Fri Mar 29, 2002 10:33 am Post subject:

Hi Michelle,

Just curious, how did your boys adapt to your husband, and vice-versa? Mine were young enough to adapt easily and not even know better. Yours were 11 and 8, right? How is that working out?

Keep your husband on the prayer requests with what you'd like for us to pray for...covering him with prayer will help his walk! I've seen it happen... Very Happy

YSIC, Kelly.

chelle35 · Posted: Fri Apr 05, 2002 7:04 am Post subject:

Kelly,

My boys have really adapted well to my husband. Their Dad has a mental illness, so he does not spend much time with them, but they love him and pray for him daily. But, when the Lord sent me Brian, he really knew what He was doing. Brian, having never been married before and not having any children of his own, is sooo wonderful. The boys respect him and the rules of our home. It is truly amazing. Brian is not very good at spending quality time with them, however, he openly communicates with him and they feel free to talk with him about anything. Thank you, I will definetly keep Brian on the prayer posts. I can really see God moving in his life already.

kelly · Posted: Fri Apr 05, 2002 8:50 am Post subject:

Glad to hear your reply! God bless you and yours! :inlove:

YSIC, Kelly.

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 1858 Location: Chicago

My husband and I are not a blended family, but we have many friends who are. Have you found it easier to blend with children being younger, or have you found more challenges if the kids are in their early to mid teens? Some of our friends have mentioned it is still a struggle even if their kids are grown into their 20's and 30's.
There was a recent meeting we were a part of where the word "loyalty" came into play in speaking about blended families. How does loyalty play out in your relationships?

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

SAM · Veteran Joined: 03 Mar 2001 Posts: 1858 Location: Chicago

Dave, you made me laugh when you said, "Aliens take them from ages 13-18". I have two daughters ages 17 and 21 and
this has rung true more than you know.

sisi · Newbie Joined: 28 Oct 2006 Posts: 24

Hi,
I just wanted to know what you think about this situation...I have a 2 year old son from a previous relationship (before I got saved) and am now married.
We had twin daughters in July and he loves them so much!
But what Im starting to notice is that my husband is kind of rough with my son, and says that he needs to be because I spoil him.
For example, my son sometimes gets up in the middle of the night and wants to sleep in our room, by my huisband gets really upset about this. Also, my son is really active and likes to run around alot and play, but my husband always tells him to 'sit down and behave himself.' -and I'm thinking 'arent children supposed to play? Theyre not going to sit all the time.'
This sometimes causes some conflict between us.
I'm just afraid that there will be some favoritism when it comes to the kids-and I really dont want there to be because it would hurt me so much if my son were left out.
What should I do?
Question

webacus · Posted: Sun Oct 29, 2006 8:40 pm Post subject:

sisi, Welcome.

I suggest you:

• Create a new Topic
• Copy-and-paste this post into the above new Topic

You created this post on a message thread
from 2002 (!) No one will see your message.

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