Before Marriage - How does God show you whom to marry?

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

I am a new member here, although I have been visiting growthtrac for 3 months.

I have been praying for a husband who is also a Christian, and asking God to reveal him to me. Recently I had an experience that makes me think that God showed the man to me. As I viewed his work, - I uttered "this will be your husband" and then just started laughing at the statement. I have not met him but I know that he is a committed christian, and he does not know me. Due to many other things, it seems humanly impossible for such a thing to happen. However, I am reminded of Sarah, Abrahams wife - who laughed when she was told that she would be having a child in her old age. I want to believe in the supernatural. I am also praying for confirmation.

What are your ideas about this experience, and do you believe that God can show a woman, the man who is supposed to be her husband? Do you believe in a man making contact for the basis of friendship? Are there any experiences that you have had or have have heard off, that are to this extent?

Thanks.

Jadalina. Smile

webacus · Posted: Mon Nov 11, 2002 7:35 pm Post subject:

jadalina, first, welcome to Growthtrac!

I can't say I have "experience" related to your question... However, I wouldn't put anything past God. He does answer prayer -- often creatively in surprising ways.

More specifically, how do you think God is guiding you?

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

I am not entirely sure. I feel settled in this new revelation. However, this knowledge has led me to question a lot of my plans - that I have after graduation.

I am want to depend on the word of God. Psalm 119: 105 - Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.

I am curious to know what other Christians have gone through, and what they went through in discerning who was the right mate for them.

Janine · Posted: Tue Nov 12, 2002 7:32 am Post subject:

My mother chose my husband.

This was not in an 'arranged marriage' sort of way, but she chose him by liking him when other young men I knew were not to her liking at all. He was the 'pick of the litter', you might say. :laugh:

Since then, looking back at the few young men I liked and the way my life and faith might have developed with them rather than with my Michael... I have to say Mama did a good job. :inlove:

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

Janine,

That is cool! The way dating is nowadays, I wish we still had arranged marriages.

However, my mum's opinion on the man who approaches me for marriage - will stand high and unchallenged. Second to God, She knows what's best for me.

I am glad to see you accepted what your Mum felt was good for you.

What would you do in my case?

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

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As I viewed his work, - I uttered "this will be your husband" and then just started laughing at the statement. I have not met him but I know that he is a committed christian, and he does not know me.

You haven't meet him? why and when will you meet him. Also I will leave you with this little story:

It's like the farm boy who ran to tell his father that he had to leave the farm because he'd just been "called to the ministry." Some clouds had floated by in the shape of a P and a C, which he interpreted to mean "preach Christ." His dad, however, deciphered the sign differently, and told him to get back to work since God was telling him to "plant corn," "pick cotton," "punch cows," and "pluck chickens."

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

No I have not met him.

I don't know much except for his work in the Ministry. I don't plan to contact him so as to tell him what I think God has showed me.

That is why, this situation is not humanly possible - what is your belief about the supernatural, about the way God works?

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

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I don't know much except for his work in the Ministry. I don't plan to contact him so as to tell him what I think God has showed me.

Does he know you? Do you know if he is married, or has a GF?

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

Davep

Good Question! No I haven't met him and know nothing of his personal life. Isn't that amazing?

Now, it is humanly impossible as I said. However, am I as a Christian supposed to limit what God can do? You are right, because if he had any of the above, would that not disqualify him from this revelation - then I would know for sure?

What do you advice me to do? I appreciate your advice and your prayers too. No, I will not write to him to inform him of the above.

Thanks.

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

Test your thoughts against God's Will. If it truly is God's plan, it will happen regardless of your thoughts of the future. First suggestion is to find out if he is married or has a GF. Regardless of who you think he may be, you cannot marry anyone even if it is God's Will unless you go through the steps. Step one is developing a relationship ( after of course you finding out his marriage status ). Don't try to figure out what God's plan is, you just might spoil the surpise he has for you.

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will. - RO 12:2

Do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world. This is how you can recognize the Spirit of God: Every spirit that acknowledges that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, but every spirit that does not acknowledge Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you have heard is coming and even now is already in the world. - 1JN 4:1

Do not put out the Spirit's fire; do not treat prophecies with contempt. Test everything. Hold on to the good. Avoid every kind of evil.- 1TH5:21

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

Davep

Sorry I am posting late - Homework to do.

I understand what you say. I feel as if I would be forcing things if I went ahead and contacted him. I feel that to question his status, would be a signal to God, that I do not trust him enough. But you do have a valid point!

I am willing to follow your advice to a limit. At what juncture would I be forcing something that is not there? I am of the thought, that if God has shown it to me, he can show it to him, and all that matters is patience.

Do I write and hope he writes back, what if he's not interested in writing back, do I take that as a hint from God that it is not a revelation from him? Do I call and ask - are you married? So, if he's not married, is that confirmation enough? This are things I am still hesitant to do, or don't know how to do them.

Whetever the results, you can rest assured I will share them here. My position and that of my friends is very conservative. They believe as I do, that everything should be initiated from the man's side. However, my case does not conform to some of these guidelines. Therefore, what I am doing right now, is being patient, but also listening to the instructions of my mentor/s, on what I should do or should not do.

I am also praying to God for confirmation. And yes, I would like to test this revelation, if only I knew how too. This new knowledge changes everything, from where I would live (a different continent altogether), where I would base my company or where I would work, and so many other things that I hopped that God would enable me to do.

I either trust God on this issue or I don't. The book of James talks about patience, and among other things that challenge me to be a better image of God. I am ready to learn from my experience, and be molded, if the revelation is not prooven true. I have to be willing to learn, I should not be like a horse that needs a bit in its mouth - for it to be led.

After all this is done, all that remains is my vow to God. I only want to do what is right before God.

Davep · Veteran Joined: 02 Apr 2002 Posts: 463

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. And yes, I would like to test this revelation

That's just it, it is not a revelation yet. It is simply a thought that came to from someplace. How did God speak to his elect? How did He do it in the Bible?

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

Davep

Yes, - it's not a revelation.

Now that we have that straightened out, and you may be more mature in faith what is your input in about the second last post.

Thanks.

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

I Wrote

He Wrote back!!!

He thanked me for writing. That is all. Ok, so now does that mean anything? Does that prove anything or provide more information than before?

A Pastor whom I've updated about this, asked me to leave it at that. Thank you all for your help and your feedback. Let me know what you think.

God bless.

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