Before Marriage - How does God show you whom to marry?

Janine · Posted: Mon Nov 18, 2002 12:57 pm Post subject:

If the guy has a ministry, he undoubtedly has some sort of biography available through his church or publisher, or somewhere.

You could find out his marital status that way.

I might also suggest that you subconsciously find him a 'safe' male to speculate about, a non-threatening male figure to fixate on. Better to develop connections and find common interests with men that are flesh-and-blood to you.

Do not eat up a lot of time and energy dealing with this in your heart. It would not hurt anything to get his bio, but do not tell him about your possible "revelation", because any man in a ministry must hear something similar from many women.

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

Janine,

Thank you for your feedback. In fact, his bio does not have any status at all, and I am reluctant to find out. I have not had a problem associating/dating men I can see. In fact - this is the kind of thing that I most suspect of - for me and for anyone who would come up with something along this lines.

However, after my last relationship/dating experience, I am convinced that dating is not for me, and will wait for courtship - which of course under this circumstances would be a little presumptous - Don't you think?

No, I am not willing to tell him anything. If a person is in the presence of God - has the spirit of God, he will be able to discern what is right or wrong. It is not my place to inform him.

Thank you for your wise words.

webacus · Posted: Mon Nov 18, 2002 6:00 pm Post subject:

jadalina
May I ask your age?

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

Webacus ,

I haven't check my birth certificate yet. Until recently my mum told me I was born on the 27th, and it was really the 25th.

I am between 20 and 30 years old.

Thank you.

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

Janine wrote:

If the guy has a ministry, he undoubtedly has some sort of biography available through his church or publisher, or somewhere.

Janine,

Not to read word for word, but how do you know he is published?

Thanks

Anthony · Full Member Joined: 14 Jun 2002 Posts: 84

Jadalina?

1. Does this mystery man live in the same City or State as you?
2. Have you ever seen a picture of him?
3. How did you hear about him?
4. Have you had any boyfriends in the past?
5. Do you have any friends now, who are male?
6. Are you only attracted to this mystery man, because you feel God is calling you to him?

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

Anthony,

Thank you for your question. My first post in this topic offers all the answers that you have asked.

However, I have male friends and No, I am not attracted to him (if attraction is butterflies in the stomach kind of thing/euphora)

Thanks.

Anthony · Full Member Joined: 14 Jun 2002 Posts: 84

Jadalina?

I went back and read your opening post, it doesn't tell us if the mystery man lives in the same city or state. While you have not meet him, does this mean you have not seen a picture of him? Also how did you come across his work in the first place? How did you come by him and his work?

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

Anthony,

I thought I was just going to be able to get by, without having to shout out loud who he is, but it looks like you will not relent :sneaky2:

Ok, I have not met him - I saw something he had done. Days later, I saw his photo too and it seems like he lives in a State I would not dream of living in (I am not sure of the State though).

Does this help?

Anthony · Full Member Joined: 14 Jun 2002 Posts: 84

Jadalina

I wasn't attempting figure out who the mystery man was, only was wondering if he was within your circle of people. If he lives in another part of the country, and you therefore have no chance at a face-to-face relationship, it would be hard for him to in turn to develop a relationship with you, other than as pen pals.

:inlove:

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

Anthony,

Thank you for your input. The situation is humanly impossible, thus my first post asking for advice.

Anthony, since you are a Christian, how come you have been able to develop an intimate relationship in God? You cannot see God physically, and so it is your faith in the unseen, your hope in the word of God, your belief that he exists. Any relationship can develop from as far or as close as can be.

I do think about this things once in a while. My goal for the moment, is to find out the truths or spirit behind my statement. If it is indeed God, you can rest assured, that I will run to another country all together(which I plan to do), but he will still bring it into fruition - regardless of technology, friendship, commonality etc. Do we stop to read the story of Jonah, who resisted the calling of God?

Second, should it not be from the spirit of God, It releases me from that responsibility, and enables me to concentrate on other areas of my life as a Christian. It also teaches me to listen to, and to hear and to recognize the voice of God. Most of all, I will see it as a test of endurance or faith, that strengthens me as a Christian. That I will be closer to God after this. Mathew 16.26 says ' what will it profit a man to gain the whole world but lose his life'.

What is most important for me, is to keep my belief in God, no matter what the outcome.

Janine · Posted: Tue Nov 19, 2002 7:46 pm Post subject:

Ah. I can't see God.

Fair enough.

He is here with me, though. In me, around me, over me.

Anthony · Full Member Joined: 14 Jun 2002 Posts: 84

Jadalina

When one is trapped on a desert lsland, and puts a message in a bottle, hoping for help, Does God show up? God helps us with and through the relatonships we develop with people. If you are able to connect the dots in your life, you will see God's hand, after the fact. Don't anticipate God's moves, don't try to out think him, or try to figure his plan out.

God's message is simple, follow his commandments, he'll do the rest of the thinking. I experience God through the love and expression of other Christian men and women I fellowship with. My strength comes from the collective faith of many Christian brothers and sisters.

Also remember there is satan, who is also attempting to foil, God's "Word" and your understanding of it. He is also throwing plans in from the side lines. Test everything. Your spirit will never tell you anything which is different then scripture.

jadalina · Full Member Joined: 11 Nov 2002 Posts: 62

Janine?

Welcome back. Did you see my question - how did you know he was published? I did not mention that before.

Thanks.

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