PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
• Is my own appearance important to me?
• Is it important that my spouse maintains his/her current physical appearance/weight throughout our marriage?
• How important is hygiene to me, i.e. brushing teeth, taking showers, deodorant, etc.?
• How do I like to dress for special occasions? For church? For dates? For work?
• Do I want to be able to have a say in my spouse's choice of clothing, hairstyle, or general appearance?
• Do I care if they have a say in mine?
• Is cologne/perfume important to me?
• What physical features are attractive to me?

HOUSEHOLD
• How clean is a home that is comfortable for me?
• What is my favorite thing about home?
• What can I not tolerate in my home (noise, clutter, dirt, pets, unmade beds, etc.)?
• How many/which jobs do I think I should do to keep my house maintained?
• How many/which jobs do I think my spouse should do around the house?
• Who should keep the yard maintained (spouse, both, or hired out)?
• Who will maintain the cars (spouse, both, or hired out)?
• Who will make decisions for and carry out decorating the home (spouse, both, hired out)?
• Who will cook family meals?
• How many meals do I expect to cook or for my spouse to cook daily?
• Who will do the shopping?
• Who will do laundry?
• Who will do the dishes?
• Who will pay bills?

RECREATION
• My idea of recreation is?
• To me, camping means?
• My favorite sports are?
• The way I relax on the weekends is by?
• What areas of recreation do I want my spouse to accompany me on?
• What areas of recreation do I want to do with my friends or alone?
• How often will I want to spend time away from the family in my own recreation?

KIDS
• I think kids are?
• Kids get on my nerves when they?
• I love it when kids?
• The way I feel about other people's kids is?
• The way kids usually feel about me is?
• Kids should be disciplined when?
• The way I want to discipline my kids is?
• The role of a parent is?
• I want [ ] kids someday.
• How important is showing physical affection to my kids?
• Is telling my kids I love them important?
• How much time do I think I should spend with my kids daily?
• How important is two-parent interaction and discipline?
• I think the bottom line for discipline should be with the (mom or dad)?
• How important is it for kids to respect their parents in my home?
• When it comes to discipline, I think I will be: lenient, strict, or somewhere in-between?
• Where do I want my kids educated (private school, Christian school, home school, etc.)?

HEALTH/HISTORY
• Taking care of myself and my health is [ ] important to me.
• I think a healthy lifestyle includes?
• Physical exercise is?
• To me, eating right means?
• My idea of a good work out is?
• My life fitness plan is to?
• My health problems (present or past) are?
• I take medication for?
• I think life long-term supports are?
• People in my family have a history of the following health problems?
• People in my family have died at the ages of?

INTIMACY
• I feel loved when?
• The way I show love to people is?
• Which of the following are ways I feel most loved? Time spent with, words of encouragement/praise, gifts, being touched and hugged in a non-sexual manner, when people do things for (serve) me.
• Showing affection in front of kids or friends is?
• Intimacy is developed through?
• I think a good marriage needs at least [ ] hours a day (or week) of focused communication to stay connected.

WORK
• My idea of a dream job is?
• I think the average number of hours a person can regularly work a week and maintain family commitment is?
• Providing for the family is whose responsibility?
• My career plans are?
• How important is a steady job to me?
• What kind of work ethic do I want in my mate?
• Where do I draw the line with a job that demands too much time?
• My plans for retirement are?

SPIRITUALITY/RELIGION
• The way I feel about God is?
• I think the way God feels about me is?
• On a scale of one to ten, going to church is [ ] in importance for my life and future.
• I want to raise my kids in the [ ] faith.
• Will God be the center of my home? Why or why not?
• If yes, how will I make Him the center?
• Prayer is something I do when?
• To me, the Bible is?
• Other religions besides Christianity are?
• Eternal life is accomplished by?
• Select and discuss the following. To me, God is: personal, real, distant, vague, angry, happy, loving, harsh, demanding, gentle, kind, good, make-believe, living, powerful, weak, or other.
• The way to have a relationship with God is?
• For me, including God in my daily life is?
• On a scale from one to ten, obeying God and His word is a [ ] to me.
• When I die, I?

                      

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