Roger and I were first married, I took a shooting-gallery approach to praying
for him. I would go down a list of requests, praying over several areas of his
life. I wanted to make sure I was
doing everything I could to be the kind of wife God wanted me to be, as well as
the kind of wife Roger needed me to be. I worked hard to be faithful in my
prayers for Roger. I would pray for every area of his life from parenting to
work. I would pray almost every day in every way that I could think of. And
then I started to slip.
like I was praying the same things over and over again without seeing any
results. My prayer life had become stagnant, boring, and eventually close to
nonexistent. Not long after that point, we received a call from my brother in law
Randy. Roger’s mom was in the hospital. After some phone calls between
California and Florida, Roger decided he would fly to the East Coast in a few
that Roger was overwhelmed at work, was feeling guilty for being the only kid
who still didn’t live on the same coast as his mom, and was worried about her
recovery. On top of that, he had been feeling run-down physically. I was very concerned
for my husband.
it became so much easier to pray because I knew what Roger needed—strength. I
prayed that he would stay strong physically—he already wasn’t feeling well. I
prayed that he would stay strong emotionally—it is so hard to deal with aging
parents, especially when one is sick. I prayed that he would stay strong spiritually—I
knew that in his exhaustion it would be easy to skip Bible study and being in
the Word. I also knew that it was going to be hard for us to talk and for me to
encourage him. I was traveling and speaking, and with a three-hour time
difference, there were going to be a lot of challenges for us to stay
spoke with Roger every day, sometimes for just a few minutes, I could hear how
exhausted and overwhelmed he was. Roger loves his mom and hated to see her so
weak. On top of his concern for her, he was also worried about our own kids and
I needed to step up my prayers for my husband. I started looking for Scriptures
about strength that I could email to Roger, and for the first time I really
thought about using those Scriptures as prayers.
found Psalm 46:1, “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in
trouble,” I prayed,
Father, I pray thatRoger would seek you as his refuge and strength.
I pray thathe would have knowledge of
your presence and your help. And I kept praying. I
prayed as I was on a plane to my
engagement in Oregon. I prayed as I was driving and when I went to sleep at
night. I prayed as I made my coffee in the morning. I prayed because I knew
God’s promises and I wanted them for Roger.
past, I had prayed almost wistfully, with a lot of disclaimers: “If it be your
will,” and “I only want what you want, God.” And those things are true. But
what I realized I was doing was praying meekly so as not to put too many demands
on God. Isn’t that how most girls are raised, to not be too demanding?
time it was different. I was praying Scripture, so I didn’t have to wonder if
it was God’s will. I was praying the promises that God had set out in his Word.
Praying Scripture over my husband gave me a new freedom in my petitions to God.
now incorporated Scripture into almost every part of my prayer life. When I’m
faced with an issue, whether it’s as mundane as praying for safety when we
travel or as deep as wrestling with temptation, I’ll find a Scripture that
speaks to the issue and pray that verse.
found this invaluable in praying for Roger. When a need arises, I can find a
verse that speaks to that need and pray for him.
hard for me to put into words how praying Scripture has changed me, my husband,
and our family. I used to approach prayer as a checklist, something that had to
be done in order for me to carry my “Good Girl Christian” card. Now prayer
feels about as natural as breathing. Praying Scripture has caused three huge
changes in my relationship with God and how I pray to him.
Praying God’s Word for
Your Husband by Kathi Lipp