While the women were very willing to share their thoughts, the men were a bit less eager to do the same. Regardless of the inhibited and abbreviated nature of their answers, the men responded by completing the same sentences.
"If I could, I'd tell my wife to stop..."
•worrying about other people in the house.
•getting up and leaving me all alone afterward.
•punishing me.
•thinking of our sexual relationship as a job.
•talking herself out of the mood.
•taking me for granted.
•I don't tell her to stop!
•always being tired.
•saying "no" so much.
•being so busy.
•procrastinating about her physical problems.
•being shy about her body.
•being so closed-minded about various sexual activities.
•falling asleep.
•just thinking it's a responsibility.
•feeling that it's a bad thing.
•thinking or talking about other things during sex.
•being stressed.
"I would tell my wife to start..."
•being more aggressive [this was the most common comment].
•initiating the lovemaking. I need to know she wants me.
•being in a better mood.
•enjoying sex.
•being more spontaneous [also a very common comment].
•being more playful and having a good time.
•telling what she wants and what she enjoys.
•losing weight.
•focusing on my needs and feelings more.
•taking more of an interest in our sexual relationship.
•making more time for us; put "us" on her priority list.
•getting her sex drive back.
•showing more affection to me.
•kissing me more.
•becoming more of a participant.
•making time for us instead of centering on everyone else.
•initiating lovemaking because she wants to be with me
•to do anything!
Perhaps as you perused these very candid statements, one of them sounded a tone of familiarity in your heart. If so, we encourage you to prayerfully seek an opportunity to discuss it with your mate. Communication will indeed contribute to the joy of being both connected and co-naked.
Excerpt from
Hot Topics for Couples, by Steve and Annie Chapman.
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