"It is wrong/awful/horrible/terrible/unfair to   be treated the way you treat me." "I can't stand your treating me in such an   irresponsible and unjust manner."
 
"You should not, must not, ever behave that way toward me." (entitlement)
 
"Because you have acted in that manner toward me, you are a terrible person who deserves to be treated poorly by me. (non-responsibility)

I am often impatient

I often have critical (negative) thoughts about others.

When I am upset with someone I may shut down any communication and withdraw.

I feel inwardly annoyed when family and friends do not seem to understand my

Tension mounts within me when I tackle (or interrupted during) a demanding task.

I feel frustrated when I see someone else having fewer struggles than I do.

When facing an important event, I may obsessively ponder how I must manage it.

Sometimes I walk in another direction to avoid seeing someone I do not like.

When discussing a controversial subject, my tone of voice is likely to become loud, I can accept a person who admits his or her mistakes, but I have a hard time accepting someone who refuses to admit his or her own weaknesses.

When I talk about my irritations, I don't really want to hear an opposite point of view.

I do not easily forget when someone does me wrong.

When someone confronts me from a misinformed position, I am thinking of my rebuttal as he or she speaks.

Sometimes my discouragement makes me want to quit.

I can be quite aggressive in my pursuits or even when playing a game just for fun.

When I am in an authority role, I may speak too sternly or insensitively.

At times I struggle with moods of depression or discouragement.

When someone speaks ill of me, I react with defensiveness.

I act kindly on the outside, while frustrated on the inside.

I often blame others for my problems.

I struggle emotionally with things in life that aren't fair.

At times I have an "I don't care" attitude toward the needs of others.

I use sarcasm or cynicism in expressing humor.

I sometimes say things without thinking of the consequences.

I dislike being told what to do. I dislike waiting in lines.

I am often impatient with those I feel are not as smart as I am.

I struggle with insecurity or fear. I generally always want my own way.

I feel superior to most people.

There are certain things I feel I deserve.

Driving brings out my anger and frustration.

If you checked more than 5, you have an anger problem; read on.

Acting out our anger stems from our irrational and illogical belief that a person's action equals the same thing as the person himself.

Anger tends to overlap or extend onto other areas of our life. (It spills over).

The depression and anxiety that result from increased tensions stemming from anger inhibit our effective performance in other aspects of life.

Our anger responses, as well as depression and anxiety, may create negative responses from others that in turn make us highly self-critical, which in turn increases our levels of anger, depression and anxiety.

The repetition of anger mixed with other emotions can create difficult tensions both within us and in our relationships with others.

Anger often has a demand quality which suggests if you don't act/feel/think a certain way, I have the right to be angry.

It's okay to feel anger. The Bible says, "Be angry but don't sin."

How many of these are true for you?

I must do well and win approval of others for my performance or else I will rate as a rotten person.

Others must treat me considerately and kindly and in precisely the way I want them to treat me.

Everything in life is black or white; there is no gray.

The world (and the people in it) must arrange conditions under which I live so I get everything that I want when I want it.

I must be perfect in everything I do. I have to be the best.

It's terrible if someone dislikes me or finds fault with me.

If I am angry it must be your fault; therefore any thing I say or do is your responsibility, not mine.

Life is against me (life isn't fair).

Things should happen when and how I want them to.

I must control things and people in my life to avoid bad things from happening to me. Some reasons we get angry; What are your reasons?

Our intentions have been thwarted. Someone or something is blocking a goal

We feel betrayed or we fear betrayal

Our link to getting our needs met has been threatened or broken. We don't have enough financial reserve

We are releasing pain via anger

We are embarrassed and use anger to express it

We are repeating an anger pattern that we learned in childhood

We have gotten our way before using anger, and we have somehow learned that anger "works"

We need to control, or to self-protect

We have unrealistic expectations

Learn to recognize the many faces of anger in your life

Admit that all angry expressions, good or bad, are the result of choice

Take full responsibility for your anger and your behavior

Let go of excessive dependencies so your anger management is inwardly directed rather than externally determined

Choose to relinquish your cravings for control in exchange for freedom

Ground yourself in truth by setting aside idealistic myths.
   
Keep your lifestyle habits consistent with your emotional composure

Live in humility rather than self-preoccupied pride
   
Hold your defenses to a minimum; trust your healthy assertions  

Accept the inevitability of loneliness as you struggle to be understood

Relate to others as equals, neither elevating yourself above them nor accepting a position of inferiority

Pass along to the next generation your insights on anger

Avoid the temptation to rationalize your anger; assume full responsibility for who you are and what you do

Be accountable for your ongoing growth and open about your anger management.

Work through your emotional wounds.

Focus on God's love-for you and others.