Thou shalt talk with your kids everyday.   Even a brief phone call to ask your kids how their day went -- when   you are on the road, for example, communicates your care and concern for your   kids.
 
Thou shalt listen to your kids everyday.   Often times, it is easier to talk to your kids than it is to listen. Listening   is a key communication skill -- one that can't be overlooked! Listening   is the language of love. Listening to your kids will keep you in touch with   what is going on in their lives.
 
Thou shalt affirm your kids everyday.   Kids thrive when they receive meaningful affirmation from their parents. Paying   attention to catch you kid in the act of doing something good or displaying   a positive character trait can take work, but is well worth the effort.
 
Thou shalt offer your kids affection everyday.   Dads, if it is your desire to build a stronger relationship with your kids,   affection is a must. Not the affectionate type -- Learn to become affectionate.   It is that important. Be sure to offer your kids genuine affection through loving   words, affirmation, encouragement, small gifts and appropriate touch. (For ideas   on physical affection, download our free tip sheet, "Keeping in Touch with Your   Kids".)
 
Thou shalt intentionally work at relationship   building. Chances are (if you consider yourself an absent-father) that   you've already lost touch with kids. For instance, do you know the names of   your son or daughter's closest friends-- Relationships with your kids, like   any healthy relationship, takes work. Healthy relationships take time as well.   Spend time with your kids. Find out about their lives; what they like and dislike,   who their friends are, what their world is like, etc.
 
Thou shalt have a one-on-one outing at least   once a month with each of your kids. This builds on the last commandment   of intentionally working at relationship building. Schedule a monthly appointment   with your son or daughter -- where relationship building can take place.   These outings don't have to be elaborate. Go out for some ice cream, for example.
 
Thou shalt share your life with your kids.   As you interact with your kids, be sure to open the door to your life, so they   can get to know you as well. Healthy relationships are a two-way street. Share   your own likes and dislikes, your hopes and dreams, your goals and desires and   even your struggles (appropriately, of course.)
 
Thou shalt handle conflicts. One of   the temptations of an absent-father is to be too busy to address conflict or   even run away when it occurs. Conflict can either be a path to communication   blockage and unloving behavior, or it can be a path to deeper communication,   greater understanding, and loving behavior. Handling conflict, in the long run   is actually a way to strenghthen connections with your kids. Working through   the conflict takes greater emotional involvement, but it is the loving way to   care for yourself as well as your kids.
 
Thou shalt talk to your kids about big life   issues. For better or for worse, parents have the most influence on kids'   morals and values than anyone else -- unless by default -- if their   parents are unavailable. If you see yourself as an absent-father, I encourage   you, don't throw your influence away! Talk to you kids about the big issues   in life; let them know what you believe and why.
 
Thou shalt 'be there' for your kids.   Fathers, one of the most valuable contributions you can make today in effort   to reconnect with your kids is to simply "be there;" involved in their lives.   Your presence is a powerful affirmation and sign of caring towards your kids.   Your presence provides kids with a greater sense of security than almost any   other quality parents can offer. Sometimes, this means being willing to make   some tough choices; like choosing to be your daughter's volleyball match instead   of being at another business meeting. But, the value of being involved in your   kids' lives is more valuable than a bigger paycheck.